(Closed) I need to vent!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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36 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

In my mind $40 isn’t much to get mad about if it isn’t a frequent occurance.

It sounds like you two should make a budget and both agree to save X amount each month.  My Fi makes a lot more than me so he saves more, but percentage wise of our salaries, it’s about equal.

And it could be worse…my fiance bought a new pickup truck the day he proposed.  Ha!  Laughing

Post # 4
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3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I understand completely and yes I get mad at these things too but it is his money and he can do with it what he wishes… even though in reality he SHOULD probably be saving money for the house and other necessities. So you definitely have a reason to be peeved about it but I think you are just having a bit of rage right now and you will probably not be as mad later on =) 

Post # 5
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1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it probably makes you more mad because you are PMSing 🙂 I say pick your battles and let this one go.

I agree with @udlaurak about making a budget though. That way you can both be accountable for saving!

ETA: Good job on quitting the smoking btw 🙂

Post # 6
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46334 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with @udlaurak:  $40 is not an amount I would feel I or my Fiance would have to account for. I think the nicotine withdrawal may be affecting your reasoning(but keep up the non-smoking! You will never regret quitting).

Sit down and work out a plan together. Figure out how much money should each of you deposit in a savings account each month relative to your income.

If you are living together (I wasn’t sure) decide who pays what bills, how much you each kick in for miscellaneous expenses etc and what’s left can be spent with no questions asked.

Post # 7
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

I can empathize with you (b/c my hubby is a HUGE electronics fan), but it’s best not to “scold” him about it because it will probably come back to “haunt” you so to speak.  While planning a wedding, I’m sure there will be things that he feels are unecessary.  So, it might be best to let it go.  However, try to sit down sometime (while you’re not irritated or PMS’ing) and create a plan to save for both of your dreams together! 

P.S. I was never a saver until I met my man.  I was very hesitant and resistant at first, but I slowly came around.  Maybe your fiance’ will begin to “see the light” in the near future too!  Smile

Post # 8
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

its done so vent away  and tomorrow will be a better day

 

Post # 9
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387 posts
Helper bee

At least it’s just $40.  My SO had to fly somewhere for work, so instead of bringing his computer to watch movies and an IPhone to listen to music, he goes out and purchases a BRAND NEW IPAD just for the one day trip!  I thought I was going to strangle him!

Post # 11
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

he goes out and purchases a BRAND NEW IPAD

i told my husband to take the day off work and relaxed – i should have told him specifically to stay home because he went to the camera store to “just look” at something and $5K (yes thats thousand) later he rings me.  to add insult to injury he said “i get a $100 cashback from nikkon” – oh yeah, $100 makes such a big difference honey

 

Post # 12
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14419 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Men…. AAHHH!!  I was trying to convince Fiance that he didnt need those damn speakers he just bought (although only $100) and that I had a perfectly good brand new set that I hadn’t used (that was like 60 bucks).  They were both logitechs so its not like my set was a piece of crap.  But nope, he HAD to have the one he wanted even though hes the one reminding me that we need to save for the wedding whenever i want to buy something for the house.

Post # 13
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622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

oh man i feel your pain, my Fiance is living at home not paying any rent, in debt up to his ears and thinks that he’s going to Myrtel Beach in Oct for a golf weekend! I’m doing my best to talk him out of it  I’m living on my own paying all of my bills and doing my best to figure out how i’m going to save for a wedding! Good Luck!

Post # 14
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387 posts
Helper bee

@eloping I just sputtered a little bit.  5 THOUSAND?!  It’s like “oh yeah, thanks honey for that $100 you’re getting us back.  The other $4900 could’ve bought us something we really needed, but hey, thanks for the benjamin!”

He gets irritated when I go shopping and buy a $60 pair of shoes (they are beautiful sparkly Steve Maddens), but he can go drop HUNDREDS on an IPAD?!  I already told him that we’re doing financial pre-marital counseling because there is no way he’s going to magically watch his spending.  He’s an only child and has gotten WHATEVER he has ever wanted.  That’s not happening in the LR household, let me just tell you!

Post # 15
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@LaviniaRose2013: i know!  and we are off to singapore soon and he dumps on me how he wants to buy a special underwater housing for it – i ask how much… eventually he tells me $3K *faint*.  i told him having a mistress would be cheaper

 

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