- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2004
hey all, I’m going anonymous so I can vent. My mother (who hasn’t worked in 8 1/2 years) and my sister (who is 32 and hasn’t worked in 7 years and still lives at home with our parents with her 2 children) just returned from an 11 day vacation in Disney World. Now, my problem is they are using my father’s money to go on their many vacations that the 4 of them (my mom, sister, nephew, and niece) go on. My father is the only one working in the house, and it’s not like they’re wealthy; nor is my mother of retiring age. They just returned last week form this vacation and now they’re planning another Disney vacation. This one will be 10 days and cost $9,000. That’s just absurd to me. If you’re going to plan these long, expensive, elaborate vacations (that cost $9,000) either make it a once in a lifetime vacation or include the rest of your family, not just one child and 2 grandchildren. Also, if you’re going on these vacations, at least include the person whose money you’re going to use. My father works night and day and sometimes two jobs at a time to provide for them. I am 24 years old and haven’t lived with them since I was 19, I’ve worked since I was 18. It’s just crazy to me that they go out and spend every dime of his all willy nilly. When they don’t plan these vacations they have to uphold their images. Weekly nail and hair appointments for them.
I’m sorry if this is jumpy, but there’s so much I want to get out. I’ve held it in for years now. I’m tired of the way they use my father, he’s too old to work 2 jobs. They both need to help him with bills, especially my sister since she’s still living in their house at 32 and doesn’t pay a single bill. She’s not worked since her first child was born. I love my niece and nephew, but by her having them that’s put added pressure on my dad to work harder and longer hours to provide for them. My other sister and I both got my father’s work ethic in our genes so we work hard for what we want. My oldest sister, sadly, received our mother’s work ethic. My mom has worked maybe 10 years since I’ve been born, and those years were not consecutive. I’m fine with her not working because for the most part she’s always been a stay at home mom. My problem is now she’s planning all the crazy expensive vacation with my dad’s money and not even taking him. I fear that my niece and nephew will grow up without a work ethic because it’s all they’ve seen from my mom and sister.
Forgive me if I’ve rambled. What this really boils down to is worry for my dad. He only wants peace in the family, so even if he’s upset, he would never admit it. I want him to be able to retire in 4 years like he’s supposed to, but I doubt he’ll be able to. I worry for his health and mind. I worry for him raising a 7 year old and a 3 year old. I just worry about him.