(Closed) I need to vent about clothes and my sister’s BF

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow.  This might be one of those serious differences in locale, but I cannot understand, under any circumstances, how anyone could wear jeans to a wedding.  WTH.

I’m so sorry that family, of all people, isn’t matching their attire to the significance of the location!  It goes without saying, but I would politely tell your sister that it is a very important event for you and you expect your family and their guests to respect that in their attire.

Good luck!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would have put “semi-formal” on the invites. Semi formal is a nice shirt and pants. NOT jeans.

I can’t imagine anyone ever wearing jeans to a wedding. It’s a wedding! How do you think that what you can wear camping is also appropriate for what is probably one of the most formal events you will ever attend?! 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Do you have a wedding website? That’s a good place to clarify a dress code (semi formal, or whatever).

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

being from indiana…. i totally understand where you are coming from! i would not be happy if someone showed up in jeans to my wedding…. they should know better… im putting semi formal dress somewhere on my wedding website… ugh… people! lol

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Um… My Fiance, the groomsmen, my father, and my stepfather are going to wear jeans to our wedding. I don’t see why you wouldn’t if you were going to a casual wedding. (Not saying that anyone should at yours, but there are some weddings that you can wear jeans to). Some jeans are more stylish and costly than a lot of people’s dress pants.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@reinab505:

That’s so frustrating, especially since it’s family- your sister should understand. I’ve joked that we’ll need to define cocktail attire on our website, or at least ask that they wear their black Wranglers and good boots. *sigh* Some people just don’t like dressing up.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@pinkhorse: It’s a matter of the tone of the event. Generally weddings are events where pants are worn, so unless stated otherwise by word of mouth, I would wear pants (well not me, but the men would).

If your wedding is a jean sort of wedding then that’s great! But by the same token you want to let people know so that they don’t feel out of place when the turn up in pants. This is just the opposite situation. 

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