(Closed) I need to vent, get a hug, and have a STRONG drink

posted 5 years ago in September 2013
Post # 3
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@jenrawson21:  I haven’t gotten any feedback like that before, but you are completely right – it’s YOUR day NOT theirs! I’d try to ignore them and remind them that this is your wedding and it should be exactly how you want it to be..

Post # 4
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424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@jenrawson21:  Hi month twin! Sorry you are feeling stressed. I know its hard but try and stay focused on you and your FH. I know how difficult it can be when people are so opinionated. Instead of stressing out about it, my sister told me to think of it as a compliment that they want to “help.” It is impossible to please everyone so I would be as gracious as possible when people offer their opinions, but stick with what you want. My FH’s aunt keeps reminding me this will be the only day in your life where you get to have complete control (for the most part) so live it up!

Post # 7
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2376 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Easiest way to make it stop – quit telling them the details!  They don’t need to know, and what they know, they can criticize.  For the ones who have the details already, every time they make a comment, just say ‘Thank you for your input, I’ll keep it in mind!’ in a nice voice, and proceed to change the subject.  Repeat as needed.  Unless they’re completely dense, they’ll get the hint.

Post # 8
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1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Kind of but it’s mainly my in laws and I really don’t care what they think… 

Post # 9
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722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jenrawson21:  been there, heard that. seriously, just ignore it! people tend to just open their mouth and let the words fly out without even thinking twice. people don’t realize how hurtful their comments can be, especially over something you’re so excited about. BUT! this is yours and FH day, you do what you choose and what you want. you don’t have to proove anything or please anyone!!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jenrawson21:  Geez, what’s wrong with people? Sorry you had to deal with  all that. I agree with PP, don’t tell them anymore details! If they’re so negative to nitpick everything, they don’t deserve to know any more.

Post # 13
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4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I get the, “how’s the wedding planning going?” almost everyday from someone at work. I don’t get the type of negative feedback you’re getting, but I also keep my answers pretty vague and short, haha. I know they’re being nice, but honestly answering the same question 2-3 times a day gets old and I don’t really want to have to explain every choice I’ve made. I just don’t really even share most of the details.

Post # 14
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424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@jenrawson21:  I totally agree with you they had their chance haha! September 28th ๐Ÿ™‚ September is getting closer and closer huh? So excited! 

Post # 16
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1105 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah people ask … I just say ‘it’s good… we’re getting there!’. I don’t offer many details… it’s none of their business ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

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