(Closed) I need to VENT…sniffle…sniffle…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Do you have a cousin or some other family member that knows your sister and can deal with her?  I wouldn’t step up the gift for Bridesmaid or Best Man.  Your sister is off her rocker making demands for gifts.  I’m sure your mother won’t let her back out after you give her the gifts, I’d of course wait until the rehersal dinner, the night before the wedding, to give them out then it’s too late. 

Post # 4
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

First of all, I have to laugh at the names you’ve assigned your maids for the purpose of this story. Is there a reason you picked the animals you did?

Secondly…. your sister is WAY out of line. IT doesn’t matter whether she doesn’t like Flamingo. This is YOUR WEDDING day, and if Flamingo is a good friend to you, thats all that matters!

Thirdly, she ACTUALLY told you she wants you to pay for everything (which is not at ALL common where i’m from, if you accept being a bridesmaid, you accept the title knowing you will have to shell out for dress and shoes, hair and makeup, etc.) AND had the nerve to tell you what your limit should be for your gifts? OH HEELLLLLL NO!

I would tell her now, I’m sorry but the gifts I have in mind don’t meet your requirements, so maybe you really SHOULD just back out now. Sister or not, that is one BITCHY thing to do!

Good luck!

Post # 8
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

First, I would address your sister’s behavior and tell her if she can’t stop making demands she needs to back out now. And if she doesn’t then backing out is not an option later. I don’t think she understands what being a bridesmaid means…


Secondly, I would suggest another family member for bridesmaid? Maybe a cousin or something?


Third, you DO NOT need to step up your plan for bridesmaid gifts. $400 is RIDICULOUS.

Post # 9
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@iMechie:  Not saying YOU need to be the one to kick her out. It sounds like once you tell her that her ‘expectations’ are NOT going to be met, she will back out on her own, and hopefully your mother won’t blame you, unless she feels like forking out the money for your sisters dress, shoes, makeup and hair, as well as buying her the extravagant $400 gift.

I’m sorry but your sister is off her rocker!

Post # 10
680 posts
Busy bee

How old is your sister? 

If you’re expected to give a $400 gift for the Bridesmaid or Best Man, what will she be getting you as the bride…being that she is your sister and all, she should go above and beyond if we’re following that crazy line of logic.

Post # 11
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Why should your sister dictate who your bridemaids are?! Are you going to tell her who can and can’t be in her wedding? That is crazy. Only you and your Fiance should choose that. I would keep my friend as a Bridesmaid or Best Man and if you sister has a problem with that then oh well she can deal.

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