- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Ok…in terms of wedding planning, everything been going well. I’m a very crafty person so I don’t really need help from anyone…from Save the Date, making my own fabric bouquet, invitations, centerpieces, favors…etc. I can handle it all on my own.
My only issues so far are with bridesmaids and family.
I originally had 3 BMs in mind, all 3 are friends. Bridesmaids: Leopard (MOH), Horse, Flamingo
Horse backed out on being a Bridesmaid or Best Man because her cousin recently got engaged and she only have so much time and money for one wedding, hence, she’s choosing family over friends. Fine. I was upset and hurt but what can you do?
Then, my mom guilt me into asking my sister to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, fine, she is my only sister after all.
My sister doesn’t like Flamingo, hence, Flamingo needs to be out or there WILL be drama (of course, my mom is on my sister side) — Flamingo is a good friend, but I can’t choose a friend and pissed off both my mom and my sister. Ok, Flamingo is out.
Now I’m only down to Leopard (MOH) and my sister…I need at least 1 other girl. (Fiancé will have 3 groomsmen — and I know you don’t NEED to have the same number of Groomsmen vs Bridesmaid or Best Man, but I hate lope-sided, so does fiancé…I do have friends to ask but they are not nearly as close…).
Last night, my sister was complaining how I should pay for everything for the BMs: dress, hair, makeup, the whole 9 yards. Then she said “If I’m going to pick a dress that I’m paying for, I’m choosing whatever I want…Oh, and you MUST give all BMs gift of no LESS than $400 person” — I was like WTF?
I originally wanted to gift all the Bridesmaid or Best Man, a silver knot bracelet and a handmade steam-punk terrarium – i wanted to give something that has meaning, the knot bracelet is for helping e tying the knot and the terrarium symbolize helping me celebrating my new life in marriage.
My sister doesn’t know what I’m gifting ..but whatever I gift, if it’s not a super brand name or super expensive…it’s just not good enough for her.
I already pissed off Flamingo because of my sister, and now my sister was like “If you’re not paying for everything or give NICE gift…then I’m backing out” —- I want to cry.
1) I’m debating which girlfriend I should ask (I asked one of my HS school friend and she said she wants to be a guest and don’t want to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man because its too much work…). My other close HS friend just recently had a baby so that won’t work…
2) Should I “step up” on the Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts? Maybe paying for the dresses?? What about make-up and hair??