(Closed) I need unique/non-traditional ceremony ideas! Help please!

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Welcome to the Hive!

We used this one from Mrs. Apple and there was not a dry eye in the room, including ours.

The Hands Ceremony

John and Jane, Please face each other and take each other’s hands, so that you may see the gift that they are to you.

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.

These are the hands that will work along side yours as together you build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief temporarily comes your way.

 

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.

These are the hands that will give you support and encouragement to chase down your dreams.

These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.

These are the hands that will lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into eyes that are filled with overwhelming love for you.

And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Interesting thread!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It doesn’t brake up the talking but you may like the idea of a Rose Ceremony here’s what i’ve been working on for our Ceremony:

“Your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings – which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect; and a public showing of your commitment to each other.

You now have what remains the most honourable title which may exist between a man and a woman – the title of “husband” and “wife.”

In the past, the rose was considered a symbol of love and a single rose has always meant only one thing – It means “I love you.” BRIDE AND GROOM have now chosen to give each other a single rose as a symbol of their love, and as their first gifts to each other as husband and wife.

Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife.

In some ways it seems like you have not done anything at all. Just a moment ago you were holding one small rose and now – you are holding one small rose.

In some ways, a marriage is like this. In some ways, tomorrow is going to seem no different than yesterday. But in fact today, just now, you both have given and received one of the most valuable and precious gifts of life – one I hope you always remember – the gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage.

BRIDE AND GROOM, I ask that where ever you make your home in the future – whether it be a large and elegant home – or a small and graceful one – that you both pick one very special location for roses; so that on each anniversary of this truly wonderful occasion you both may take a rose to that spot both as a recommitment to your marriage – and a recommitment that THIS will be a marriage based upon love.

In every marriage there are times where it is difficult to find the right words. It is easiest to hurt those who we love most and it is easiest to be hurt most by those who we love most. It might be difficult some times to find the words to say “I am sorry” or “I forgive you” – “I need you” or “I am hurting”. If this should happen, if you simply can not find these words, leave a rose at that spot which both of you have selected – for that rose then says what matters most of all and should overpower all other things and all other words.

That rose says the words: “I still love you.” The other should accept this rose for the words which cannot be found, and remember the love and hope that you both share today.

BRIDE AND GROOM, if there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, it is that it was love that brought you here today, it is only love which can make it a glorious union, and it is by love which your marriage shall endure.”

Post # 6
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Helper bee

We did a wine ceremony – I poured a white and my husband poured a red into a carafe so they mixed to look like a rose. Then we poured the mix into glasses and each drank a little. We were afraid it was going to taste awful, but we chose very mild, non-complex wines so it was actually fine :-). Right after the ceremony, we had our catering company serve a true rose ( the V. Sattui Gamay rouge, which is delicious) to our guests, to symbolize all of our friends and family participating in our union.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@tksjewelry:I have never heard of this but I absolutely love it! i hope you don’t mind, but i am going to steal this and see what my Fiance thinks of it πŸ™‚ 

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@theredhead: I stole it from Mrs Apple, LOL.  I hope he loves them, we went through soooo many and those were the only ones that made Darling Husband tear up.  That is when I knew those were the perfect ones.  I still tear up when I read them.  We did customize them for us but that last line just is sooo perfect.

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Helper bee

do a google search for “offbeat” wedding and you will get to a great site with lots of ideas and stories… once you’re on the site, do a keyword search for ceremony πŸ™‚

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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Holy Moly TKS, I already started tearing up when I read that. I think that’s a wonderful idea!!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m using the “hands ceremony” as a reading. I adore it!

 

We’re also doing a wine box. Here is what our officiant is going to say.

 

Officiant says: “I’d like to draw your attention to the box in front of Mr. Stew and Ms. Stew.  They have written letters to each other expressing their feelings as they begin their marriage.  They will include these letters in the box along with a bottle of wine.  Together they will seal this box, and on the happy occasion of their anniversary, they will open the box, read the letters, drink the wine, and add new letters to the box.  As time passes, they will have a record of the yearly reflection on their relationship and a living document of the growth and depth of their ever evolving relationship.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@NoMoreStew: We’re doing the wine box + love letters too! I’m pretty super excited about it. πŸ™‚

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had my brother and sister perform “Higher and Higher”–my brother played the accoustic guitar and my sister sang. It was actually my favorite part of the wedding–everyone was clapping, and it was just so happy. Would HIGHLY recommend getting some music into the mix, especially if your fiance love music.

I also did what we called a wedding tree signing. We had a tree graphic created and signed our names in the trunk during the ceremony. We then asked our guests to each sign a leaf during the reception. Our we plan now to hang it in our home–it turned out really well.

Our final addition was having our immediate families stand and accept their newest member into the fold during the ceremony. They stood as a group and repeated a “vow” after the officiant. It was an easy way to include my mom, stepmom, and grandparents in the ceremony and make them feel special. I also thought it was important to show that while we’re creating a new family of our own, the families we grew up in are still a vital part of our lives.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsB2012: we’re doing a ring warming.  What you can do is have your Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man stand at the back of the guest seating and wind a ribbon throughthe crowd (one on each side of the aisle) then starting at the back, the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man place the ribbon through the ring, and each guest takes turn blessing the rings and passing it to the next person until it eventually snakes it’s way to the front where your Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor will then reclaim the rings and pass to you and Fiance to exchange.

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