(Closed) I need you help please!!

posted 9 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

you lied to a priest… you are going to hell!!! 🙂 … joking!!!!!

for me, i would be honest about it – its too big a deal to me to be lying about… is he young or old? if younger then maybe he will be cool about it as it is 2009 and you are trying to include the faith i your marriage

is your daughter christened?  if not, then maybe something you might want to consider while your at it


Post # 4
5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Tell the priest. You don’t want that on your chest come your wedding day. = (

Post # 6
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You should call and tell them. Otherwise, in the words of my fun catholic friend, you may light on fire at the alter!

Just explain you got scared they wouldn’t marry you and your parents encouraged it  and now the Catholic Guilt is upon you! They may not marry you, but they might! Also, are there other churches inm the area? I doubt you are the first catholic couple to have a child to get married =]

Post # 7
2342 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think you should tell the truth and tell them about your daughter.  I’m catholic too and I would feel really bad lying to a priest and in the church.  You don’t won’t to start the marriage with a lie.  I’m sure the church/priest will understand!  Afterall God forgives all right?!? 

Post # 8
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Here is Albany, they actually have special pre-Cana classes for couples with children.  Perhaps your mother wasn’t up to date on the way the Church does things these days.  I would come clean to the priest.  The worse he can do is say that you can’t get married there.  Do you really want your wedding to be based upon a lie?  This is the Catholic church – they are more worried about you being of a different religion or Heaven forbid getting married in a non-Catholic ceremony.  You’d be better off giving up your dream church than walking on eggshells all day worrying about when the priest will find out that your daughter is in fact your daughter.

Post # 9
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Just to echo everyone else, you need to tell him the truth. I could see lying about living together, but lying about having a child? Not a good way to start this process. Good luck.

Post # 11
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Good luck!!

Post # 13
3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think you did the right thing by telling the Priest. I wouldn’t feel comfortable hiding my child either… (if I had one lol)

I’m not Catholic, but my Fiance is. I’ve learned a lot about the “rules” of the church… and it really does depend on the Priest in charge of that parish. My Future Sister-In-Law has gone to the baptist church since she got married (raised Catholic). She recently told a Catholic Priest this info & he basically told her to never come back to the church because she had renounced her Catholic faith. Fast forward 6 months later to a new parish & priest- she had her vow renewal ceremony in the Catholic church (they were married in his church) and there was no problem at all.  Sigh. It all depends on the minister.

Hopefully everything works out for you 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 14
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Hope it works out for you.  I think you did the right thing

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