(Closed) i need your opinion.

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sorry you are going through this. Maybe your mom is feeling sad about you getting married because you won’t be her little girl anymore. She is probably very happy for you, but sad at the same time because you are growing up. Sometimes daughters are very hard for moms to give up. She just may not know how to express her feelings to you. Maybe send her a special letter letting her know that you still love her and would love to have her help with your wedding and that you will still be her little girl.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m sorry this is happening to you. It’s difficult when a parent (or sibling or whoever) isn’t interested in your wedding or comes across as such. For me this is my dad, he’s very self involved and if he calls my sister or I it’s to talk about himself – he never asks us about what’s going on with us and when I went to visit him after I got engaged it took him 45 minutes for him to comment on the fact that I was getting married and that was only after my sister asked him if he was going to say anything about it. Sometimes parents aren’t what you want them to be and it can be hard to let go of what you wish they (and your relationship with them) could be like.

Noritake is probably right – she might not be coping with the fact that you’re growing up, and it might be easier for her to focus on your little sister and your step dad cos they’re there where she like em to be! Maybe you could talk to her about it if you think this might be the case – it might help to clear the air a bit.

I hope you’ve got someone who you can be excited about your wedding with – friends and stuff, try to enjoy the supportive people you have around you and you know if you want opinions or excitedness about your dress from people you could always post it on here! Laughing

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with what the above posters said about your mom maybe being sad to see her little girl growing up. But maybe it is the distance thing too? i know you’re trying to involve her, but maybe the pictures you’re sending her are just reminding her how far away she is from you and how she wasn’t there to go shopping with her little girl. Does your brother live in the same town/area as your mom? If so, maybe once you move back to the town where she lives she’ll start showing more interest and excitement because she’ll be in the thick of things, so to speak. Maybe right now she just feels unimportant to the planning process because she’s not there in person to help with these decision? I would talk to her about how you feel about this too. Maybe she doesn’t realize how she’s treating you and how that is hurting you. I hope things improve!

Post # 7
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I agree with Rabbit! And yeah, I’d love to see your dress & bouquet!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My Future Mother-In-Law is going to be the same way… she just isn’t going to care one bit about any of it, which really makes me sad because I was hoping it would be a bonding experience. I’m really sorry your mom isn’t interested, maybe she’s having a hard time with her little girl growing up? I know my mom is kind of having a hard time with it and is going out to lunch with her friends more.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My mom is overly excited, oy…but my close friend’s mom has been totally uninterested.  According to my friend, her mom was having trouble with her boyfriend of many years, as she wanted to get married and he didn’t (would be 2nd wedding for both).  Her own wedding drama is preventing her from being excited for my friend.

Just thinking about your mom, and Sparkle’s dad…parents are people too, and sometimes they can act in a way that’s mean, confusing, and shocking for what seems like no good reason at all. 

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