Post # 1
okay, folks, i need your collective opinion (because i know how wise and helpful the bees are)…
last week my mom and i went to look at my PERFECT venue. it’s a theater from 1915 and it is dreamy. i can’t imagine having my life’s most important party anywhere else. my wedding will be the weekend before christmas of next year. but, there is a dilemma (of course). on friday and saturday night the theater is a night club from 10pm-crazy hours in the morning. there is no way around the night club opening at 10, but i really want a night wedding. having a sit down dinner really isn’t in the budget and not really appropriate for the layout of the venue. there are couches and loungey areas all over, so hors d’oeuvres would be perfect. so here’s where i need your opinion: if we held the reception on saturday and we began the reception at 6ish and we wrapped it up by 8:30 or 9, would it be rude to not offer a full dinner? my plan was start the ceremony around 5. my thoughts are that if we inform the guests it will be a heavy hors d’oeurve reception they can eat a heavy lunch. i just don’t know if that’s rude. i’m worried/stressed/sad.
sorry for the novel, but i really apprecaite y’alls help! thanks bees! xo!
Post # 3
If the hor d’oeurves are good and plentiful, then it could work!
However, that’s a pretty short reception (I think). Maybe you could get the nightclub to agree to let people stay past 10 for the afterparty?
Is a Sunday afternoon reception an option?
Post # 4
well, i really wanted a night-time reception. ive always envisioned a candlelit wedding ceremony. that’s where the problem occurs. i don’t know what to do! 🙁
Post # 5
Is there a lot of natural light in the theater? You could possible close the drapes… that way, it would seem like night. Then the candles would be no problem!
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I don’t see anything wrong with just having cocktails and appetizers. The setup could be more of a tapas-feel– which I think is sometimes more pleasant than a full meal.
There is no hard and fast rule saying you must feed your guests a dinner. So if your invitation indicates something along the lines of "wine and tapas" or "cocktails and hor d’oeurves," there’s no reason a guest would feel unprepared for a lack of a meal.
This honestly sounds like a very lovely wedding reception in the making!
Post # 7
well, i’m actually getting married in a church. it’s wall-to-wall stained glass windows, so i don’t think blocking the light out is going to work. and to me, having the ceremony perfect is much more important in the end.
if it helps any, we’re doing mini burgers, mini pizzas, mini hot dogs, fries, popcorn, etc. is that an adequate dinner?
thanks for you y’alls help! 🙂
Post # 8
I don’t see a prob with that. It sounds fun to me.
Post # 9
Personally, I think that’s plenty. I know I wouldn’t have any complaints if I attended a wedding with heavy hors d’oevres during those times. But is it possible for the venue to allow the younger/more party-types to stay when it turns into a club (like a built-in afterparty)? (because I, personally, think it would be AWESOME!)
Post # 10
Your wedding sounds so fun! I would LOVE to go to a party and eat mini burgers and dogs and pizzas – all my favorite junk foods in mini-form! That plus drinks sounds like it would be plenty. Just maybe make sure to tell your caterer to have PLENTY of the hors d’oervres available, so everyone gets to have some. But, I would find a way on the invitations to let people know that dinner will not be served, so they can have a light dinner before they come if they need to.
Post # 11
We just went to a reception that was heavy hor d’oeurves and it was fun and plenty of food. We did eat a late heavy lunch because we knew we were getting a full meal-the reception card stated a cocktail and hor d’oevrves recpetion. The food was soo fun-they had a carnvival chic theme with sliders, a mac and cheese station, cotton candy, mini corn shrimp dogs…ect. I think you can make it work for you too.
Post # 12
i think the menu you have planned sounds delicious! as long as you plan for having enough pieces to go around so that people are full, i think you should be fine. it doesn’t have to be a sit down dinner to be filling!
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2008 - 1930s Historic Building in Lakeland, FL
Heavy hors d’oervres are so hip and you can offer a huge variety, I would say GO FOR IT!!!! My sister’s wedding was heavy hors d’oervres and I had plenty to eat, no one complained a bit!
Post # 14
Do make sure that you check with the theater management about the candlelight part. Many venues like that have restrictions on open flame. If they do, the are imposed by the city and there generally is no way around them. At any rate, it’s entirely possible that at least the kind of candles and how they must be enclosed will be regulated. Our venue allowed no actual candles at all. My sister’s allowed a limited number, which had to be purchased through the venue, because they had to be dripless and smokeless. There have been lots of posts about candles having to be enclosed in something like a hurricane lamp, that extends at least three inches above the flame. Anyway, it would be good to ask before you get too attached to a certain picture of how it’s going to look.
Post # 15
Suzanno took the words out of my mouth — make sure you check with them regarding candles before you get your heart set on it — I didn’t and I was dissappointed to find out that we couldn’t do candles unless they were in a covered container and that’s just not what I had in mind.
Also my only other advice – because you have gotten some great stuff already – is to make sure you let your guests know what to expect. Make sure you tell them in the invitation that it is an hors d’oervres reception so that they can plan for a later lunch that day.
Post # 16
thanks so much! i’m feeling so much better about this. what would i do without weddingbee?
a quick word of clarification: i’m actually having my ceremony at a church and the reception at the theater. the church is pastored by my dad’s best friend and i have the go-ahead on whatever i want to do – meaning, TONS of candles! yay!