(Closed) I never deserved her

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Newbee

@Worst-husband:  I don’t know if this post is real (or a troll) but I will approach it from a place of concern just in case.  You really really need some therapy.  Seriously, you have a ton of issues and getting back with this woman will not solve any of your issues.  And just thinking about killing him/you, etc should tell you that you need help immediately.  Honestly I think you need to leave the poor girl alone and work on yourself.  Until you get yourself right your life and hers will be a tormented and complicated mess.

Post # 4
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

please PLEASE go back and break this up into paragraphs so it’s easier to read

 

Post # 5
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

ok .. that was really hard to get thru

you don’t love her …  you can’t have her and that’s the “allure” .. you only love YOU

get some help, SA NPD therapy and leave this poor NICE girl alone. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

so you haven’t gotten married to her ….. so your name is wrong too?

 

Post # 10
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9083 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Why am I suddenly creeped out to live in Oklahoma City?

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Worst-husband:  

ok. Take a minute. What exactly is it that you want? You can’t go back in time and fix the last three years and the many times you messed it up. You want her to be happy but -rightfully- have realised you aren’t able to give her that. I don’t think you are going to be the source of joy in her life no matter how much you love her until you get yourself together, get a few payments in the bank, stop the lies, keep seeing the therapist you clearly need and sort your shit out. 

Why would she text her abusive ex? Perhaps because her confidence is so low – thanks to your relationship – that shed rather go backwards not forwards. 

Honestly you need to give her some space. If she needs material help, give it. Otherwise, focus on sorting yourself out and be there when she needs you to be. That’s all you CAN give her now. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m really sorry. it must take a lot to spill all that. in a lot of ways you remind me of my SO, even the way you type and your dark but honest thoughts. if you are anything like what I think you’re like, then I can see why she’d love you… unfortunately you did screw up by lying about the small stuff after she forgave you for cheating on the big stuff.

you could do something really big for her for christmas, wow her, surprise her. she still loves you, but you really did hurt her. if you do get her back you’ll have to go to therapy for lying (why did you lie about the small stuff?), or at least just make sure you never do it again… one last chance, I think your love is worth that.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@Worst-husband:  Honestly, at this point the most loving thing you can do for her is to go away.  Let her go on with her life without you in it.  You also need to move forward in a healthy way so that you can be a great husband for someone.  Really, she has been through enough.  Give her space to make her way out of this and on with her life.

Post # 15
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841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Misstiptoes: but I do agree with this poster. I know you ache to have her back asap, but perhaps the best you can do, for the both of you, is ask her to wait for one year until you get your act together.

Post # 16
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4961 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Legit , it’s time to call 911. You are ill.

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