Post # 1
This post may seem whiny, but I have to vent. I have never, ever felt intelligent enough to pursue my dreams. I always did fairly well in school, scored high on the SATs, etc. However, my family said things that made me feel dumb. After college, I got accepted into a fairly prestigious graduate school. Unfortunately, throughout graduate school I struggled with addiction (a pretty severe addiction). Consequently, my grades were awful. I have since gotten help and have put a life together. Logically I know that my grades were the product (at least in part) of my addiction. However, I can’t shake the feeling that there is something wrong with me/ that I am stupid. Have any other bees struggled with this? How did you get over it? It is really holding me back.
Post # 3
@abeenonymous: I made horrible grades from 5th grade until I graduated high school. I’m quite surprised that I even passed. I had a lot going on in my life at that time, but even so, I just pushed forward. I make very good grades now that I’m in university. I’m still scared that I’ll fail at things, but I guess that’s the only way anyone ever learns a lesson!
I think you just have to have faith in yourself. So, you made some mistakes, but obviously you’ve got the brains if you were accepted into graduate school. Just push yourself to get out there and start being the successful person you know you can be!
Sorry. I have no magical words of wisdom, but if you’ve done well in the past, you can certainly do it again 🙂
Post # 4
This is a really common feeling among graduate students. It’s not unusual for grad students to feel like everyone else around them is smarter than they are (it’s usually referred to as imposter syndrome, like you’re afraid everyone is smarter and eventually they’ll realise you’re not). It’s a terrible feeling, which I know from experience. It’s also really hard to shake. I can imagine it continues past grad school (it’s not clear from your post if you’re still in school or not?)
I don’t have any good advice as I’m currently feeling pretty lousy about academia, but just know you’re not alone. Just think at what you’ve accomplished – not only did you get where you are, but you got help for your addiction and have moved forward with things. You’ve picked yourself up and worked at getting yourself on track, and that’s something to be so, so proud of. You aren’t stupid. Hang in there; I hope you start to feel better!
Post # 5
@SaucyMcgee: Thanks. I keep telling myself that I can’t define myself by my performance during that period of time – I was just SUCH a mess. Still, it is difficult
Post # 6
I’m a graduate student and I find myself thinking I’m the dumb one in the group all the time. Not that I don’t know anything or that I don’t ever have anything to add, but being among scholars and professors/scientists who have been in the field since before I was born doesn’t make me feel like I’m remotely near their level.
I haven’t suffered from addiction but I just wanted to let you know that I can empathize with you on a graduate student level.
Post # 7
@abeenonymous: You obviously are not dumb if you A) got accepted to graduate school B) had an addiction you were strong enough to deal with and put behind you.
You sound very intelligent to me. People go through all kinds of things in life & you sound stronger and SMARTER for them! Don’t beat yourself up!
And, I’m starting graduate school this year. They started a little FB page for us (and I’m at a big 10 school) and it’s like I see these people they all look like straight from their Bachelors, young and super cool. I’m gonna be 30 & feel like an old dummy 😉
Post # 8
I’m in law school right now, and I feel dumb everyday. Being around others that are so accomplished all the time is really hard. I walk out class some days surprised that I ever learned to tie my own shoe strings. Some days I question how I ever functioned in the real world. Sorry you’re feeling this way, I know how bad you feel. Keep your head up though. You can do whatever you set your mind to.
Post # 9
I have graduated from the university and I STILL feel dumb every day!! 😉
I have come to realize that(for ME) the feeling of not being smart enough is more of a social anxiety issue than a fact….
Post # 10
you sound so far from being dumb!
echoing what a PP said be you were studying at a grad school, and recognised that you had an issue and you actively looked to get help with it.
this alone shows me that you are extremely smart.
im graduating for uni this year and i always feel dumb – then i watch Jeremy Kyle and feel much better! (this is a joke btw guys)
Alot of the time my issues come from a lack of confidence in myself and my abilities. but i recognise that and its something im working on.
Post # 11
here, here! I am very confused about myself..I was a very good student till 9th grade – the type of having 8 As and the rest Bs and even on the 9th grade i was the best student in school. Then i changed school and my grades dropped a little. I was a little above average, and really good in some subjects. I went to University and while in some areas i continued very good student in others i sucked..i had your feeling when i did my trainesheep in another country. I was soooo embarassed and felt completely dumb…….and i wondered how could i have been best student of the school for some years if i don’t understand this or feel so dumb?? I too think it’s more a social anxiety than anything else..besides..i stutter..so you can immagine the insecurity