Post # 1
I am 18 and i never had a boyfiend before. All my friends would come to me and talk about there boyfriends and i made me wonder if i would had focus on getting a boyfriend while focusing on school would my life be different. I overweight but i love myself. i think because I acted like one of the guys they dont want to talk to me date wise. my hair is a problem to because it is damage i cant do anything with it. and i kind of dont really like people.
Post # 3
…Pardon me, why are you on a wedding message board, then?
Additionally, what’s the question?
Post # 4
Maybe you could find some people to relate to on The Student Room. Lots of young people are there and they talk about education and relationships, and I’m sure can give you advice about balancing the two things in your life. Good luck for doing it, teenage years can be hard. If you like it here, there’s Emotional board and general The Hive board, the Relationships board and the Career board where you may like to chat. 🙂
Post # 5
I would focus on school and if you like the board keep chatting. I am really liking my time as part of The Hive. It is good that you are happy with who are you are that’s the most important thing.
Post # 6
I didn’t have a boyfriend until I was 22 (he’s now my fiance). Don’t stress about it – just be yourself and you’ll find a guy. I think it’s true that if you act too desperate, or change who you are in order to attract a boyfriend, then you’ll either put people off, or you’ll eventually change back to your normal self (which is not who they fell in love with) and the relationship will generally go downhill there.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
You don’t like people? Why would you want one of them as your boyfriend?
My advice: finish school. Go to college. Make friends. See what happens from there.
You can’t engineer a boyfriend.
Post # 8
@Uzamintre13: You are young! You have a lot of time to meet the right person you’ll “like” enough to want to be your boyfriend, and if you’re lucky, he’ll like you right back. I was out of college before I had my first boyfriend. I was self-conscious about it and made some stupid mistakes in the dating world because of it….if I can give one piece of advice it is not to compromise your worth for a dude. There’s no sense in dating somebody who doesn’t treat you as you deserve to be treated. Good luck.
Post # 9
I didn’t have my first kiss until I was 19. Getting married in 3 weeks at the age of 36. You can’t rush things. Stay busy, work hard, become a good person, and he’ll find you.
Post # 10
I hope this is a real post. OP you sound very immature and you are only 18. You have the rest of your life to find that someone. You can always change things if you really really want to. There are so many things that can be done if your hair is damaged and you said you are overweight. If you feel that is also the problem do something about it.
As PP said go to college, find some activites and eventually you will find someone. Please stop the pitty party now.
Post # 11
Bottom line is…it only takes one guy. Eventually, you’ll find him. Until then, focus on what makes you happy.
Post # 12
Get to a place where you are happy with yourself– it’s unfair to expect anyone else to love you if you don’t love yourself, first.
Also, if you don’t like people, having one around you all the time might not be a good idea.
Post # 13
This post makes me sad. I’ve been there when I was your age. I didn’t have a boyfriend until I was 22 and met my SO when I was 23. When I was younger I felt desperate for a boyfriend and jealous because it seemed like all of my friends had one. I also thought there was something wrong with me. I was really shy and it wasn’t until I gave myself time, went to school and made LOTS of new friends along the way, did I start to let myself begin relationships. Alot of is about maturity and I know that I needed more time than others. And I can tell you this- I do not regret meeting my SO at 23 and he does not think less of me for getting a late start in the dating game. In fact, I think he has a lot of respect for that fact.
Post # 14
Aww Hon life gets better, it really does. Focus on the things that make you happy and college of course. College is soo much better than high school. Keep you head up and screwed on straight and you’ll be ok. By the way try biotin for you hair. It’s an over the counter vitamin and condition every day. The biotin helps damaged hair become healthy. Good luck sweetie!
Post # 15
I didn’t have a real boyfriend until I was 24! I am now almost 26. He is now my fiance. Love takes patience.
Post # 16
I was in your situation when I was 18. Like previous posters said, go to college, make new friends and see what happens. I know it may not be that easy, but try to be patient. You may not realize it yet, but you are still young and will meet someone later on.