(Closed) I Never Thought I'd Be Fighting with my FI About….BEES.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2468 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Woahhhhhhh. Yeah I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be okay with a 200 lb. hive in my back yard either…

There is really no national forest or park or something he could take this thing to? That would seem a bit more appropriate to me.

Post # 4
5189 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MsMonkey:  Oh no he didn’t!!! If he likes bees so much he can visit an apiary but stealing a hive and putting it in your yard is crossing the line.

Post # 5
8483 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MsMonkey:  HOLY EFFING CRAP. No. No, no, no. I’m terrified of bees and I would not step foot outside the house until they were gone. NOPE.

Post # 6
7437 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

No way would I be okay with a ton of bees near my house. They terrify me!

Post # 7
1773 posts
Buzzing bee

Honestly, bees are sweet!I let them crawl all over me and I’ve never been stung.


They are very important and in so much danger. Think of the honey!


From what I understand they are pretty chill to have. My aunt loves having them.


I’d read up on it a bit before reapproaching the arguent. I’m hugely biased on this though, I’ll admit!


Post # 9
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

He should call a bee keeper to take the hive. There is more of raising bees than just sticking them in your back yard. And it’s serious when a family member has an allergy to them. I would talk to him about this. Maybe there is a beekeeping bee that can hook you up with some more info, if not dm me and I’ll contact a bee who isn’t around anymore who is a beekeeper. 

Post # 10
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh wow! I agree with your fiance in that it’s really important to save bees right now; they are dying rapidly, and it could have a huge effect on our ecosystem.

But bringing a 200 pound hive HOME?! When your mom is allergic?! Without asking you about it first????? Surely there is another way he could have handled this! More than anything, I’d just be upset that he didn’t talk to me before bringing it home.

I wonder if there are some local beekeepers you could contact who would be able to keep them safe instead.

Post # 12
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MsMonkey:  Im deathly frightened of bees. i wouldnt even be in the house right now for fear one could get inside. that 200lb hive has to go. those bees will be swarming in no time. as a PP suggested, call a beekeeper and see if they can safely move it to a more appropriate location

Post # 13
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Holy crap!

As someone with a deathly Bee allergy, I wouldn’t go to a house with a 200-lb beehive at ALL–even inside!

It definitely has to go!

Post # 15
1797 posts
Buzzing bee

Okay, that’s crazy! Maybe you should start looking up places that will take the bee hives where professionals can take care of them. I’m sure there are beekeepers somewhere in your area. I would ask around and then see if that’s an option for your Fiance. I can’t believe he would do that! I can understand not killing them, but seriously it’s bad for you and bad for the bees. They are just going to be stressed out being around people who are afraid of them.

Post # 16
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I understand his point on trying to be environmentally conscious but “my mother is deathly allergic to bees.”

No effing way should a bee hive be anywhere near your home. It’s not like if she were allergic to a cat, and could take a benadryl before visiting (as my Mom does.) If my cat bites my Mom, she won’t die. 

End of discussion.

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