(Closed) I never wanted to be one of those women who complains about the size…..

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
3879 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@risingsun:  This post is useless without pics. ๐Ÿ˜‰ I’d love to see it, sounds wonderful!

Post # 33
3015 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Sounds like your friend is pretty rude. I could never imagine saying that to someone.

Post # 34
29 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

My husband’s twin brother’s wife also made a comment of my ring when we got engaged last year, but it was the total opposite.  Hers was smaller than mine, my is a 1.25 princess cut and hers was a small brilliant round.  She said that getting big rings were a waste of money and she didn’t understand why i would say yes to that.  She said smaller is better.  It made me feel like i should have given it back, so my husband could save some money.  Regardless of the size of your ring, there is always going to be someone out there jealous enough to make you feel bad about yours.  I say don’t listen to the comments.  Be happy you got one and your Fiance loves you so much that he got you a rock!…if anything, you can always upgrade in a few years, maybe for your anniversary.

Post # 35
2402 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

@MrsCreeToBe:  don’t feel too bad, I went from “woman who does not give a crap about diamonds at all” to wishing I had a bigger one. 

I had hinted to my SO that I wanted my ring to not be too big, but now I kind of wish I had specified at least 1 ct.  my center diamond is just a hair under .5 ct. 

however, when the proposal happened, I was absolutely thrilled, and I really loved my ring for an entire year.  it was not until I joined weddingbee that I started to drool over other rings and began to wish mine was bigger. 

two things happened to make me love my ring again:

1. I got a nice blingy wedding band that compliments it nicely

2. after I got married, I took a good long break from weddingbee. seriously– I don’t stalk the ring boards nearly as much as I used to. taking a step back has caused me to love my ring all over again. 

Post # 36
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have a somewhat small center stone in my ring (.4), and it used to be just a solitaire setting. Luckily I never had anyone make inappropriate comments about the size, but if I had, here’s how I would’ve reacted.

Face like this:

“Wow, that was rude. Moving on…”

This face would also work!

Then leave it to them to feel as they should: put in their place, like a child.

Post # 37
2402 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

@Evenj0404:  sounds to me like she was just jealous. or catty about people who like to have nice things!

how people choose to spend their money is a personal preference and is nobody else’s business. it is totally rude to say bad things about somebody else’s engagement ring!

Post # 38
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012



It’s a ring he chose and presented to you when he asked you to spend the rest of your life with him. That makes it special and it doesn’t matter what the size is or what other people think. 


Post # 40
2635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

The way you feel is completely understandable!!! You initially wanted a dainty ring, and when you received it, it was much smaller than what you see on a daily basis in NYC. Have you looked at the threads on this weddingbee that showcase smaller diamonds? They’re gorgeous!!! Looking at all those elegant 0.3 and under carat diamonds can make a girl with a big stone want something daintier ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

Now what if you truly decide you would be happier with a larger setting? Your Fiance might be supportive if he knew you had changed your mind. And if money is not too much of an issue, you could always either upgrade to another ring or re-set your stone. You could do that sooner or wait for an anniversary. 

My husband gave me a 0.3 carat solitaire in yellow gold as a birthday present before we were engaged. I practiced wearing a stone that size and realized I would want more if we got engaged. As beautiful as the ring was, I wanted more wow in my forever ring. You look at it all the time, as we work with our hands. You’ll never look at your jackets, shoes, earrings, etc. as much as your e-ring. I ended up choosing my e-ring and went for a 0.3 ct center stone (because I do love that modest size) with a double halo. Looks like a flower. It’s a fairly large setting but the largest stone is 0.3 ct. It also was quite affordable (from Zales or Peoples)

Best of luck to you! 

Post # 41
120 posts
Blushing bee

Its the love and commitment that matters. That ring is so special because thats the one who chose for you. The only thing the ring is supposed to represent is the love you have for one another and the promise to get married. I think its so ridiculous (and I’m not judging anyone here) but I think its ridiculous how big companies and jewelers make us think that its about the size of the diamond ALL THE TIME! 

Just think of your Fiance whenever you look at your ring and wear it proud!! My mother’s diamond-NO JOKE- is about the size of a grain of salt, and she loves it so much!

Next time someone says anything about your ring being small just say this “Oh no its the ring I wanted! and I love it so much more than any 5 carat diamond” that’ll shut them up ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

Post # 42
466 posts
Helper bee

I can understand how you feel.  I got exactly the ring I asked for (very similar to yours). A few days later, my BFF who had just gotten a ring much bigger and more elaborate than mine said “Oh, it’s nice….very simple”. Then she asked if she could see it and put it on her finger next to her huge ring, almost like she wanted me to see how small it really was.  Then I remembered what my mom used to say…”If you don’t want it, I bet there’s someone out there who does”. It reminded me to be grateful for what I have and not compare.  My BFF’s ring may have been fancier, but it was also her 3rd marriage, so maybe the size doesn’t mean much after all.  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 43
894 posts
Busy bee

Can I be blunt? I really hope I don’t offend anyone.

I hate big rings.

Hate them!

Whenever I see huge rocks, I think, “Was this a statement to the woman of your dreams, or to everyone else in the world?” An engagement ring should not be a status symbol or even an investment. It’s yours. It’s what he chose for you to wear every day for the rest of your life on your left hand while you hold his hand with your right. ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

I have a .5 and couldn’t be happier. It’s so beautiful and it’s entirely us. It’s not made to impress. It’s made for me to admire it and smile to myself, thinking of my sweet fiance, everywhere I go. I love that no one comments on how big it is or how flashy it is. I love that it’s ours!

I hope that helps you feel better about your ring. <3 Don’t be jealous of the bigger rings. An engagement ring is all about love, not about social ranking! 

Post # 44
894 posts
Busy bee

P.S. I’d love to see a picture of the ring. I bet it’s perfect. <3

Post # 45
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

Someone is always going to try to make you feel bad about something or other. When I was trying on rings, I kept gravitating to .5 or less, and the sales people kept making me feel bad and giving me strange looks for saying, “No, that’s too big. No. It’s too big!” Of course they were trying to make a bigger sale, but also, they just had this look like I was crazy for not wanting more.

I didn’t want a ring that would bang around. I have two dogs, and I’m not interested in them knocking it around. Actually one of them attempted to bite the ring because it was a new hump on my finger. 

I have no problem with anyone who likes bigger. But for something I plan to wear everyday, all the time, I needed it to be manageable for me. I’d feel awful if I had this big, expensive thing that I put through the ringer every single day, because I’m a very hands on person.

Post # 46
1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Mrs_Amanda:  +1

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