(Closed) I once went to a wedding where…

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Never heard of that being a “rule”, but I have felt awkward/embarassed on one occassion where I did accidentally wear a similar color to the bridesmaids. I felt like it made me look like I was trying or wanting to be one haha.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@JLR1982:  *facepalm* Why do grooms talk about fashion?

 

I hope they put on their wedding website: “Formal Attire, but no Blue because that’s what the BMs are wearing”

 

Not all wedding guests are going to know what their BMs are wearing, so how could they avoid that without going out of their way to ask.  Plus, either way you’re not going to show up wearing the same dress as the BMs, chances are the shade of blue won’t even be similar.

Post # 5
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Honey bee

I try not to if I know what the colors are. The last wedding I went to I knew the BM’s were wearing purple, so i didnt wear a purple dress I had. It’s not a big deal though.                

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Nope, seems groomzilla-ish.

But whatevs, I’d just wear something else. I won’t be making any rules like that for my wedding though.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I make an effort to avoid wearing the same color that the bridesmaids are wearing. I too would feel awkward if I accidentally wore the same color and I would be afraid that I looked like I was tryinging/pretending to be one.

Telling someone they can’t is a little extreme though, as is making a popular color like blue taboo. I mean, if the bridesmaids are wearing cornflower it’s not going to be a big deal a guest wears cobalt.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@JLR1982:  it’s not a ‘rule’, but as PP said, I might blush a bit if I showed up and realized I matched the BM’s/decor because I would feel like it made me look like I was looking for attention. he’s a goober for telling you not to wear that color, but you know, guys…

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

…there must be like….a million different shades of blue, honestly it’s 98% of the world’s favorite color and is the most flattering/forgiving shade aside from black…..wear what you like and if he gets in your face about it, be like, “This is green asshole….”  then he’ll start to wonder if he’s colorblind…which a staggering 78% of men are in some degree or another.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I try to avoid buying solid-color dresses for weddings because it would be so super-awkward if it ended up being the bridal party color.  Patterns ftw!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That should NOT be a rule but granted I was one of those people who showed up to a wedding (people I didn’t even know) and literally wore the EXACT same color as the bridesmaids. It was super awkward because people thought i was part of the wedding party all night and I didn’t even know anyone!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@JLR1982:  I’ve never been told not to but I never wear the colors that the invitations come in because I DON”T want to look like I think I’m party of the bridal party.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

In 10 years, maybe this is how bad it will be…
“Special note to guests:
The bride currently has blonde hair. For our special day, we humbly request that you avoid having your hair colored any shade of blonde, so as to not be confused with the bride.”

But I think it’s better to NOT be too closely matched to the bridesmaids, if you can help it.
It’s just that it’s no one’s business to tell you what to wear.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I never heard of being a rule, but like Nona99 said, there are many shades of color, so you can always fool him haha

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

@JLR1982:  I am familiar with this rule,  but it may be regional (I am originally from Michigan). However,  it was never brought to attention,  as that would imply that you don’t think your guests are educated on the matter.  The proper way to indicate colors was to use them in your invitations. If the colors were navy and silver,  it was acceptable for guests to wear other shades of blue,  but avoiding navy was polite. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If I know in advance, then I’ll try to avoid it, but I’m pretty sure as long as I don’t accidentally walk down the aisle while music is playing I won’t likely cause much confusion.

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