(Closed) I once went to a wedding where…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My bridesmaids are wearing black knee length dresses, so I’ll be very surprised if someone isn’t wearing the same type of dress.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

I didn’t know that was a thing either, but my Future Mother-In-Law was really worried that I wouldn’t like her outfit, so we shopped together. Her and my mom both ended up with dresses that match the bridal party.

Personally, I think it’s great! We’re having a family only wedding, so all guests will be in formal pictures, so the more that match our wedding colors/theme, the better! I like the unity and the cohesiveness that brings.

But, I could understand how some people who have far more than just family attending might be leery of it. Each couple/wedding is different.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Sometimes I wonder what guests CAN wear to a wedding after reading so many threads like this one. Other threads have mentioned the obvious: avoid white. I’ve also heard/read to not wear ivory, black, red, blush (which is basically pink), patterned dresses with white in them, overly bright colours (orange, yellow – stands out too much I guess?) and then for this wedding – blue. As other people have mentioned, so many people like to wear blue and it looks so good on everyone. After a while, doesn’t it just get exhausting? What colours does that leave?

My bridesmaids are wearing blue dresses and they will be in different shades and styles. There is a good chance someone else will wear a blue dress and therefore could look like they’re in the wedding party. But in my mind – who cares? Whatever they feel good in and want to wear is up to them. It’s not like they’re going to sneak into the wedding party photos and stand in the background, lol.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I went to a wedding with my boyfriend (now fiance) that he was in. I had never met the couple before. I was wearing the EXACT same color as the bridesmaids and I felt so embarassed! I’m sure people didn’t even notice – other than they guy who told me I did “a great job” afterwards. I said, “Oh – I wasn’t in the wedding”. He awkwardly said… “Oh… I know. But great job anyways”. 

 

Post # 21
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207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

It’s been said already, but “blue” could mean almost anything from sky blue to navy! It’s almost impossible to match the BMs unless you were blantantly trying…which I’m sure you are not! My girls are wearing sangria, so I doubt I’ll have the same “problem” as your friend, but if I did, so what? I think as long as a guest doesn’t show up in a long, white gown, no one should complain!

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@JLR1982:  yes. I’ve often heard of not wearing the wedding colors as to not be mistaken as part of the bridal party (BM, hostess, etc…) I wouldn’t say all blue is off just whatever shade if blue she is using. 

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My step sister recently told her mother that she had to cancel her dress order because she decided to change the color of her Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses to the color her mother ordered her dress in.  That rubbed me the wrong way.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@TealMarie:  you said

Sometimes I wonder what guests CAN wear to a wedding after reading so many threads like this one. Other threads have mentioned the obvious: avoid white. I’ve also heard/read to not wear ivory, black, red, blush (which is basically pink), patterned dresses with white in them, overly bright colours (orange, yellow – stands out too much I guess?) and then for this wedding – blue. As other people have mentioned, so many people like to wear blue and it looks so good on everyone. After a while, doesn’t it just get exhausting? What colours does that leave?

Agreed, how can women be so silly? I can assure you men aren’t sitting around debating this stuff.

Some days when I want a laugh I come to the Etiquette board here, always a nugget of funny.

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Like many, I’d feel awkward if I matched the bridesmaids, but I don’t think it’s a faux pas

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I agree with everyone else – I don’t think it is a huge deal and wouldn’t care if it were my wedding and a guest showed up in a dress that matched the color of the bridesmaids. But as the guest, I would feel awkward if I wore a dress that matched the bridesmaids.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@weatherbug:  “Oh… I know. But great job anyways”.

I burst out laughing! Nice save there, buddy.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

How would one even know what the wedding colors are in the first place? I’ve never seen then listed on the invitation. Am I supposed to be asking the bride or groom?

Post # 30
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Busy bee

The poor groom was most likely the bride’s messenger. How many grooms know anything about colours.

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

“Blue” is way too general a color to forbid.  What color blue are they wearing?  Sky blue?  Tiffany?  Navy?  Good grief.

My Fiance is standing up in a friend’s wedding in a few weeks, so through him I know what color the bridesmaids are wearing (coral).  Now, that’s a specific enough color that I know to avoid it, even though it meant walking past a surprising number of gorgeous coral dresses at Penney’s the other day when I was shopping for my dress.

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