(Closed) I only want one day…People tell me I need to plan more… Did I plan too much?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t think there’s to much going on in that schedule. The Sunday gathering sounds like a great wa to catch up with everyone before things get crazy with the wedding. I don’t know anything about Disney World, but are there fireworks nightly, or just Sundays/weekends? If it’s just Sun/weekend, you can get the reception room, have a late afternoon or early evening light dinner (everyone has to eat), socialise for a while, then all head to the fireworks together. 

Or just make it optional and an available thing for them to do. 

Post # 4
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think it’s thoughtful to plan some activities for your guests; however, if you get the sense that the majority of your guests already have a full itinerary then maybe only chose 1 of the options above and invite your guests and stress that’s it is optional.

I was a bridesmaid on a wedding cruise and have to admit that I spent half of my vacation waiting on groups of people to meet at group activities when I would have preferred to have been able to just do my own thing in a smaller group.   

Post # 5
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

While I kinda see where your mom is coming from, I think she’s looking at your wedding from the wrong perspective. Yes, these people are going all that way to see you on your wedding day. Sure, they’re going to make the best of the trip to Disney World (who wouldn’t?) but they have chosen that destination because of your wedding.

That said, you shouldn’t (and it doesn’t sound like you are) expect everyone to attend every wedding event that week. Just because you plan something for Sunday evening, doesn’t mean all of your guests need to attend. Most wedding guests understand that and won’t feel obligated to base their schedule on your’s (except for the actual wedding, of course).

Post # 6
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@Mrs.DBee:  Agreed. As an out of town guest, I never expect to see the bride & groom that much- I know they’re busy!

I like the idea of coordinating the Sunday event with fireworks. Is your bridal party planning on  staying a few extra days, so that they can enjoy the parks? I wouldn’t ask people to give up more than two days with wedding things- there’s so much to do at Disney.

Post # 7
9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it sounds great. Make sure people know that the other events are optional and let them decide what they want to do. If they’re not doing anything else, they’d probably aoppreciate some extra time to hand out with you guys and each other.

Post # 8
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think that sounds perfect! We went to Hawaii for a couple of close friends Destination Wedding last year, and even though it was kind of a bummer that on our weeklong vacation we really only had 2-3 days (and some of those were partial days) to roam around, in the end, we were there because of their wedding, not just for vacation! I’m sure your mother is just over-reacting. They still have PLENTY of time to visit all the parks! And trust me I love Disney too, and there is ALOT of fun things to do there, but people will want a break!

Post # 9
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think you plan too much. In fact it’s nice having a welcome event so everyone can have a chance to see each other and catch up. I think as long as those things are optional then it should be fine. Even though you are getting married on a Tuesday its quite normal to have a couple of events leading up to the big day at all of the weddings I been too.

Post # 10
1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@smiles4jo:  For my wedding in Destin that everyone has to travel to I’m just planning on having a nice early dinner the night before the wedding with our immediate family and then meeting somewhere else for drinks with rest of our guests(who are all friends our age).  My wedding is on a Saturday and many of my guests live a driveable distance away so I’m assuming many will drive up Friday and drive back Sunday.  I’m gonna be very busy before the few days I’m there before the wedding meeting with vendors, getting marriage license, etc. 


Luckily many of my friends recognize this and have said they will help in any way.  So that can be another way to spend time with them before the wedding. 

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