i paid for it i want it back!!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MightySapphire: Right there with you!

I’m not putting stamps on ours.  We’re hoping that people will decide that the last question on the RSVP will get some fun answers!  (I’m very tempted to make a photo book out of the RSVPs due to the answers we’ll probably get!)

As long as we get replies, we don’t care.  Or, at least I don’t. 😉

Post # 18
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I’d just tell those that ask that type of thing:  Actually, no – I’m really looking forward to receiving your RSVP back by mail.  I love mail!

…and leave it like that.

ETA: actually, let’s make that nicer.  How about:  I’m so excited you are coming to the wedding!  But, please still mail in your RSVP card – I’m looking forward to receiving the cards back by mail and will be eagerly waiting for yours!

Post # 19
7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

this is partly way i opted to use online RSVP. but i get the whole receiving mail thing and it suz that your guests are being weird about it.  

Post # 20
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ugh, I so know how you feel!  I provided stamped self addresed RSVPs and yet people chose to either tell me through email or by word of mouth!  How the heck am I suppose to keep track of what your meal choice is when you’re verbally RSVPing to me and I have 300 guests?  Get over yourself, you’re not the only guest I have to attend to!

If I have gone through the trouble of inviting that person, making the actual RSVP and slapping on a stamp to make things easier (and not to mention FREE) for the guest, is it really too much to ask them to fill it in and send it back…AND on time?


Post # 21
4769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My invite says rspv to: [email protected]

Deffinitely was not going to provide postage.  I would def love to just mail email invites as well, but the other party in this marriage is not so progressive yet.

Post # 22
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You stole the words right out of my mouth!

Getting back the response cards is SO frustrating!!  I’ve had a lot of people call in their responses.  This is nice, I’m glad they’re telling me they’re coming, but I love getting the mail!  I sent out the response cards with a stamp and my address on there so that I could have fun opening them. 

I love how you state that you paid for it and want it back, lol.  I feel the same way.

Post # 23
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This is why we are doing online RSVPs. I am personally guilty of the phone call/email/handing the response card back in person. Since I do almost everythin online, I rarely ever have to actually mail something out, so I always forget. I usually see or talk the the person before i make it to a mailbox. But i agree it is such a waste of postage.

Post # 24
1231 posts
Bumble bee

I told my friend to just hand me the invitation and save the stamp for something else. So she did but then she put one on the RSVP so since she already did that I’ll just mail it back to her lol.

Post # 25
1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think hand delivering the RSVP card is great…no chance of the card getting lost in the mail and it’s a “greener” method of delivery! 🙂

Post # 26
1577 posts
Bumble bee

And I have the opposite problem: I opted out of using rsvp cards because I wanted to save money, so everyone is just telling me yes/no, but then there are some who complain that I don’t have cards to send back! It’s lose-lose. XD

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