Post # 1
I ordered my dress this past summer. My wedding is in June. It just came in this weekend and I was… sooo… excited.
Well- much to my surprise, it’s a corset back in the dress, way much more boning than I recall AND has not only a zipper but buttons you actually need to hook that covers the zipper. My surprise? Unfortunately the dress I tried on was way too big and was clamped up. I am sick to my stomach that I bought this dress not noticing that.
The issue? I have anxiety issues. I can not physically be IN this gown knowing I can not get out of it myself. It is sooo constricting and so uncomfortable and I simply can’t wear it. (and it fits perfectly!) I had to have my Maid/Matron of Honor unzip it and unclasp it for 10 minutes before trying again. I can’t do. I walked out of the store, came home and am listing it on craigslist with hopes to re-coop some of my money 🙁 I’m not spending more money on alterations than I did on the gown.
I should have known better than to check the back and everything. I even told the saleperson about my issues and that is why we never tried on full corset dresses with lace up backs.
I guess I just feel like venting. Not only am I out this money, I have to go find one off the rack. This one was hard enough to find!!
Am I the only one this has happened to?! It’s not really normal dress regret.. I LOVE this dress!! UGH!!!
Post # 3
Can we see a picture of the dress. My dress was only a zip up but it was very hard to get done up on the day, very uncomfortable, struggled to sit in the car, but by the time the ceremony was over it had stretched out and was SO comfortable
Post # 4
@Gribberama: I’m a bit confused by your description (it has a corset plus a zipper covered with real buttons?) but if it is a corset back dress and this causes concern I’ve heard of a few Bees getting their dress converted to just a zipper back? Have you looked into that option before you sell it?
Post # 5
@Gribberama: Oh no! So sorry this happened to you! But if that’s the only problem, I’m sure alterations could fix it! Surely they can’t be THAT expensive? I mean, there’s no way alterations will cost you more than a bran new dress, right?
Just get a quote from a few seamstresses in your area before giving up on your dress! If you love it otherwise, it would be a shame to have to sell it.
Post # 6
@Gribberama: can’t you get the buttons removed?
Post # 7
How can it be a corset back AND a button back?
Post # 8
I guess I didn’t explain it that well. It is an interior corset (like a body bra with about 10 latches, on the inside of the dress, then the zipper goes over it. Then on top of that a zipper, with the buttons. I love the buttons, I want to keep them there, I just thought they were “faux buttons” Its hard to explain. Its my own fault for not noticing how it would be when I tried it on.
THIRTY years ago I had to wear a back brace and this feels JUST LIKE IT 🙁 I feel like I am in a straightjacket.
Thank you bees — maybe I will take it to some ladies to get quotes but really? Hem, bustle, sipper, button, take out the interior??.. deboning haha I have almost given up in my head.
Post # 9
Oh I really like it. Can you get the buttons taken off and then sewn on the back as faux buttons? does that make sense? if you get it deboned and the ‘corset’ taken out from inside it will have no structure and wont be very supportive I would think
Post # 10
YOu can get it changed to a corset back if that is what you need to feel comfortable. If you love the dress, just have it changed 🙂
Post # 11
@Gribberama: Well all of that construction makes your body look amazing!! You look lovely. Such a pretty dress. I found out later my dress had a inner latch, double zipper and individual buttons to be fastened. It was a little tight but after the ceremony the dress had stretched and was comfortable. They pretty much all do stretch.
Post # 12
It’s too pretty to sell! Get it altered!!
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
Aw, but it’s gorgeous!
When I first tried on my dress, I thought I had made a huge mistake – it was SO TIGHT. I didn’t know if I was going to be able to last all day on my wedding. It was a corset back outright, so they laced me in all good and crazy tight. I don’t do well with tightness around my torso, and after standing around getting it measured for alterations and stuff for almost 2 hours, I was really worried. On the day of, though, maybe because it was my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor lacing me up instead of the practiced seamstress lady, or just because I felt pretty and was so excited… it didn’t feel nearly as bad. It didn’t feel like I was going to pass out, it felt like a pretty dress. I don’t know if yours will loosen over time, since it has the zipper and buttons, but mine did and I wasn’t strangled all day. So if you think you might be able to get past this initial shock, it might be wonderful on the day of. (won’t lie, I was SUPER ready to take it off at the end of the wedding day, and it might have left some slight bruises, but until the very end I hardly thought about it.)
But if it’s something you know will be a problem and you 100% dread wearing it, it might not be worth it. That sucks!
Post # 14
I love it, but I am partial bc I think I wore the same dress for my wedding. If it Makes you feel any better, I didn’t think the dress was uncomfortable at all that day. I do remember it being hot though, but I had an outdoor wedding in June. I can’t speak to turning the buttons into a corset back because buttons like that was a requirement of mine, but I know people who have done it successfully!
Post # 15
@Gribberama: That dress is gorgeous! However, I do totally get the anxiety thing though. I got anxious just thinking about being stuck in it. Plus having what is bound to be a somewhat tipsy husband whose never seen the inner workings of the dress before as the only one to get me out of it at the end of the night? NO THANKS!
I will say that you should definitely go get some quotes on how much alterations would cost. When you add up the lost you’re going to have to eat by selling it on craigslist (because you’re never going to get back what you paid for it), plus buying a new dress off the rack, plus alterations for that dress (even if it’s just the hem and bustle), you may end up spending more than you would to actually have your current dress fixed.
Good luck! Let us know how it works out!
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle
The dress looks great. I would suggest practicing wearing it. I have anxiety issues and I did CBT and they always recommended approaching your fears a little at a time. It really really helped! Also, wearing it in will streatch and relax the fabric.
You don’t have to fasten the “body bra” part. That just helps it stay up. They could even take it out in alterations. They could also remove all the hooks and just make the buttons faux buttons like you wanted. I wouldn’t take out all the boning though as it might really change the shape of the dress. They would also have to take apart the bodice, which would be pretty pricey.