(Closed) I proposed, he rejected?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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unlucky:  He’s made it very clear where he stands. You just need to accept it.

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I don’t think he is a douche necessarily.. He just wanted very different things from your relationship than you did. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to get married. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to get married. The problem is in making someone do something they don’t want to do, like stay single and uncommitted forever or to get married when they are not willing or ready.

 

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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babeba:  Read her previous post regarding this relationship. 

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This sounds so childish. Move on!

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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unlucky:  

He doesn’t want to get married but you do. Time to move on.

Friendship after a break up is only possible when there are no more hurt feelings.

Do not speak to him for at least a year and then see how you feel. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Sweetie, you have to cut ties totally from this guy. I have never quite understood being friends with an ex. If I date someone, I did not want to be their friend. I can’t magically forget all that happened and act like a buddy. This man is not worth your time in any capacity. Make a clean break from this situation. Be single while you heal. Eventually, you can date again and avoid picking someone who is like this man. Good luck to you, and keep your head held high!

Post # 22
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

it’s easy for him to b nice to you now. He’s off the hook. He’s relieved. Now you know the score,he’s free, and he stands to gain friendship and possibly sex without strings and no guilt while you are left holding a broken heart.

 

RUN. Spend time with your girl friends. be around people who love you. This guy doesn’t want to marry you. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee

I dated someone for 6 years who kept saying he wasn’t ready to get married. We broke up and he met someone else and was married 1 year and 8 months later. He wasn’t ready to marry me was the truth. 

in order for you to move on you shouldn’t be friends. You need to start clean and that means having your ex out of your life. He does not want to be with you or he would of said yes. Plain and simple. You don’t want the same things in life. 

I didn’t think marriage was important and after suffering from a broke heart to many times decided marriage wasn’t right for me. Fast forward and I’m getting married because the man I love wants it, even though we have children together (So obviously I am 100% committed).

 I said yes bc I love my fiancé and want him to be happy…

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Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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unlucky:  You’re getting the reaction of a man who is largely indifferent towards your relationship.

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Just a meme to capture how I would feel if I were you OP!

Going by all your other posts, I would be fed up with this guy and would have left a long time ago.  Move on honey.

Post # 26
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Busy bee

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unlucky:  thats horrible, so sorry! But i agree, no contact is good! Friands may or may not happen. it took me 5+ years to be freiend with any of my ex’s, if thats any help

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

when you say he’s acting like everything is normal does that mean you’re still sleeping with him? I hope not.

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

leave him. nowwww

Post # 29
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Blushing bee

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Mrs.Z.:  I agree my cousin dated the same girl all through out undergrad and law school. She was an amazing girl and supported him all of those years. We would always ask them about marriage and his response was marriage wasn’t for him. Well, they broke up about a year after that and he met and married another woman PLUS had 2 children less than 2 years later. Men know what they want and when they want, you need to move on. 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

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unlucky:  The saying “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free” should really start to hit home in this scenario OP.

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