(Closed) I proposed, he said yes…and THEN(looong vent, I'm sorry ladies)

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1347 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I guess I don’t see the issue. Basically, he was planning to propose to you on xmas, you were going to propose to him, she told him of your plan. It sounds like she did that for YOUR benefit. It just seems like she thought you’d love to be proposed to, but if you did it first then it would ruin his surprise? Maybe i’m way off, that’s just what I thought. If that’s the case, it sucks that she ruined your proposal, BUT it seems like her heart was in the right place.

As for the dress shopping, it sucks that she was so pushy about it, but you just need to stick to your guns and tell her no. There really isn’t anything else you can do. Same with any unsolicited input on your wedding.

It seems like you’re extremely annoyed with her. Why have you involved her in your wedding if she’s so pushy/competitive? You already knew how she behaved from your past relationships. If she causes drama, just drop her from the Bridal Party. If she’s so much trouble though, I don’t know why you’re friends with her, or why you asked her to be in the Bridal Party at all.

At any rate, you’re engaged, CONGRATULATIONS! Enjoy wedding planning, and don’t stress out about this kind of stuff. I’m sure there’ll be plenty of bigger issues to stress you out 🙂

Post # 5
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@cheetah2b:  you call her your bff but from the tone of your post, it doesnt appear that you consider her that way. I agree with pp that it does seem like you resent her. Theres no easy way to deal with this- you either suck it up and stick with her as your moh or you cut her loose. Its your call.

Also, i saw you mention buying a designer dress from dressilyme. Just wanted to make sure that you are aware that they are a chinese replica company. They do a good job but they dont supply designer dresses

Post # 6
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

From the tone of your post, it doesn’t really even sound like you consider her a friend, let alone your bff. It just sounds like you are maintaining your relationship out of habit, to be honest. If you both want to have a real relationship with each other, I think you’ll both need to air your grievances towards one another and then forgive and forget. But I’d be really wary of proceeding wiht her as my Maid/Matron of Honor, given the tension you are already having with her and the resentment you already feel toward her. 

Post # 7
1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@cheetah2b:  UMM, WTF heffer???


Post # 8
3688 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

This is your “BFF/MOH”? It seems like you don’t respect her or even like her.

Post # 9
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@cheetah2b:  why are you best friends then? you dont seem to like her much

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