- 9 years ago
- Wedding: Central Park
@dihy: Marriage is a committment of two people, so for people to say “oh girls can’t propose to a guy, that’s just not right” baffle me. If you don’t like the idea of proposing to your guy because you want the romantic proposal then that’s perfectly fine. But I don’t get why some people get offended. I proposed handfasting to my boyfriend, he said yes but let’s make it official too. Then we bought a ring together. He was a little sad that his proposal plans weren’t going to get used, so I told him that I still wanted him to propose to me. He did about 4 months later on our anniversary. I like the fact that we essentially proposed to each other. I’m not a traditional, passive person. If I see something I want I go for it. I’ll be damned if someone says that I can’t do something because I’m a woman. But I don’t judge other women for liking the traditional female role. It just doesn’t fit me or my life.
Just be prepared for people to go “oh…. *stunned silence*” when they ask how you two got engaged. They don’t mean to be rude, they’re just shocked because it’s not the norm. They’d probably never even considered that women can propose to men.
I read that in some traditions men had to give ladies who had proposed and been rejected cloth, dresses, or gloves depending on the country.