(Closed) I purposely sabotaged a Christmas gift…

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Replace it, learn from it and talk to him about why this bothers you. That could really embarass him and cause problems for him at work. That is not fair to him  or to Liz

Post # 3
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Honey bee

I don’t know if I’d fess up, because I wouldn’t ever do something so childish. Just replace the lotion and learn your lesson about insecurities. Did it ever occur to you that your husband did not stop this “tradition” of his when he got married, because it has absolutely no romantic connection and therefore no bearing on your relationship? 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would be way too embarassed by the fact that I acted like a 5 year old and did something malicious for no reason to admit I did it, and would get my ass to the store *now* to fix it.

I find it incredibly ironic that you didn’t want him to think you were immature, so instead of talking like an adult, you instead pranked this innocent woman?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

The hell is wrong with you? You don’t want him thinking you’re this immature–you ARE this immature. Throw it away, fess up to your stupid antics, apologize to your husband and buy a replacement. And maybe reevaulate the company you keep.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Oh crap, honestly I would go to the store tomorrow and buy a new one.  Somehow someway this might get back to him (could be days or a year) who knows but Im sure he will be pissed.  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

What the hell is wrong with people?

Get a replacement bottle of the same lotion, chuck out the tainted one and then grow up another 10 years.

Take this as a lesson as when you let your insecurities get the better of you, they take you to a bad place. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

That was a very childish move and I absolutely think you should replace it.  Simple fix, go to the store, buy a new one and dispose of the tainted one.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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itsvalencia:  Replace it and throw the one you ruined out. 

Also… try to get over this jealousy. It’s a travel size bottle of lotion, not a negligee. He gets her the same, practical, inexpensive gift every year because she gets EVERYONE IN THE DEPARTMENT a gift. If your husband is untrustworthy this gift is the least of your problems.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Fess up and fix it. How would you feel if that husband did it to you?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Wow, yeah, that was pretty immature. Replace it.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Get to the store and replace it before he gives it to her. Whether you tell him or not is your choice.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t fess up — what’s the point? You know you made a mistake. 

Do you have time to get a new one & stealthily replace it before he gives it to Liz? I’m sure he’s not up there sniffing the lotion every day, so you have time until he has to take it to work. 

Don’t beat yourself up over it. We all have judgment lapses.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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itsvalencia:  I’d fess up and use this conversation to open up a dialogue about why it bothers you so much that he’s buying gifts for her.

I’d start with something like: “DH, I have to tell you something. I did something horribly stupid and immature today and I really regret it. (tell him about the lotion). I’m really sorry and I know I shouldn’t have done this. I want to replace the lotion for you and apologize for my behavior”. Then tell him the reason you had a momentary lapse in judgement is because it really bothers you that he’s buying this coworker lotion and that you’d be much happier if he just got a card with lottery tickets or something less personal.

You’ll probably get some backlash for being upset about the lotion but I definitely understand. If my DH had to buy a female coworker a present he would 100% send me to pick something out. I think a man buying lotion for a female coworker is a little odd. And picking it out on his own seems weird to me too (again, I’d think he’d ask you to help?). I mean, why didn’t he pick up the lotion when you were with him last week?

Learn from your mistake, apologize, replace the lotion, and have a conversation with your DH about why you feel uneasy about this.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Just toss it in the trash right now and plan to replace it ASAP. If he notices tonight, you can either lie and say you were smelling it and spilled it and have to replace it or tell him the truth. Either way, I think you should take a good long look inward about why you would do what you did out of sheer spite and also the source of your insecurity and jealousy. It’s up to you after that if you want to discuss with your husband or work on these shortcomings privately. Look, I’m not going to crucify you from behind a keyboard, but I hope you learn and grow from this.

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