Thanks Cinnamon Roll and 5292010 for asking for the update. This is a long update.
He did buy me a new ring for my brithday. Its not an e-ring, but it does have significant meaning to it. And it is wore with my e-ring.
(Previously, I told him I was going to buy one for myself to remind myself that no matter what, I should always love myself and be true to myself.)
Last week, I just found the list I gave him a couple of years ago. I was shocked because I thought he threw it away like he does all his papers. I could tell he actually felt bad when I mentioned that MOST of the dates have already passed and I crossed the dates out. I didn’t get upset, I just said, “You know most of these dates have already passed.” He was like, “What are you doing?” I said, “I am just crossing the ones off that have already passed or are too close to plan a wedding (less than a year and/or year and a half). He didn’t like that. I was surprised that it mattered to him, given his past behavior.
I actually shook him up when I started paying for MORE things, even thought my income didn’t change. I became more independant and he’s warmed up more and more in his behavior of ALOT of things.
He actually called me his wifey a couple of times. And he introduces me as his fiancee more often.
He also text me at least 3 mornings or more out of the week before I get into work and tell me that he hopes I have a good day. HE HAS NEVER DONE THIS, EVER.
I did ask him if he still wanted to marry me (a couple of weeks ago) and I asked him calmly in a not confrontal way. He said, “I would not have asked (you) if I didn’t.”
One time I said, “We are not going to get married, are we?” I asked him because of financial issues.
He said, “We will, someday/oneday.”
I did asked him, “Probably not even next year, right?”
He was like, “I don’t know, maybe.”
I really hope he is not stringing me along. He has been alot more sensitive and attentive. Kinda like he was when we first started dating.
When we do fight, its in a more healthier way, he actually responses back and has emotions. But I am going to keep my guard up on the inside, at least for a while. I am a forgiver, but not a forgetter. 😉
I’ll keep this updated from time to time also. Thanks bees!