- 6 years ago
‘No one’s basic right to marry whomever they want should be taken away or banned for any reason. That doesn’t mean you have to vote in favor of it, or even support it. If you disagree with the law passing, don’t go vote on it. Don’t even be a part of it, because humans having that right will not affect you in any way. They’re living together anyway; they should at least be able to legalize it. That is my opinion on it.”
Now, friends that know me know the topic of gay marriage is very dear to me; my best friend and my uncle are gay. I love them. They’re amazing people with amazing characters and I love their SO’s dearly as well!
I was just shocked to see the response I recieved. It wasn’t argumentative, but for some reason it made me incredibly angry.
“You’re one of the few people who agree with what I’ve been saying all along! I think there should be laws protecting children from being adopted by them, though. Mostly, laws stating that a married man and woman should be the only people allowed to adopt.”
So, basically, you’re trying to take away their right to have children? I didn’t understand. Sorry to vent and be so long but I wanted to put what the conversation went like and get input to see whether anyone disagrees with what I was trying to say.
I responded, “Yeah, I just don’t think it’s up to us to decide who gets to adopt. Why would we let couples that can’t have children adopt but not gay couples? There are many heterosexual couples who probably shouldn’t adopt, but it’s okay just because of their gender. Sexual orientaion doesn’t determine parenting ability.”
He responded (again, I guess because he just had to win this debate, although I do believe it’s beating a dead horse- you’re never going to solve anything…I just feel like I’m entitled to my opinion on my own page.
Him-” But, it makes it much harder on the children. I’m not worried about parenting ability, I’m worried about excessive bullying, violence, suicide, peer pressure, and favoritism in the favor of children from a “normal” home.”
(I would like to say that I was raised in a heterosexual home myself, but in no way was it ‘normal’. Just because I’ve got a Mom and a Dad doesn’t mean my home life was a good one.)
This was my last comment, and I sighed writing it because no matter how I explain, someone will always find a way to disagree. “I do understand that; however, I’ve watched a documentary on children raised in a homosexual household, and 5 out of the 5 kids were very happy in their living situation, because their whole life they’re taught to be themselves and to be happy with who they are as a person. No child gets to choose the family they’re born into, so there’s no reason a homosexual couple can’t adopt kids. That’s almost like saying a couple from the ghetto can’t have children because of their living sitation and not being able to give their child a “normal” upbringing. Most children I’ve seen or heard about that were raised in a gay home don’t resent their parents; they’re actually thankful that they were always taught love and acceptance. Kids bully kids anyway, and will find any little thing to ruin someone’s day; their home life won’t stop that, even if they grew up in a heterosexual home and a mansion.”
Sorry if this has offended anyone, I truly, truly didn’t mean any disrespect in any way. It just hurts me that so many people out there believe that just because you’re raised by two moms (or two dads) you’re going to end up suicidal, depressed, or resentful. That is horribly untrue!
I talked to Fiance about this and thank goodness he and I are very similar with all our beliefs, because he agreed that homosexual couples have JUST as much a right to adopt as straight couples. If Fiance and I aren’t ever able to conceive (which is a big possibility), I’d be furious if someone told me I couldn’t adopt a baby just because of who I loved.
Does anyone out there agree with me, or am I wrong on this?