(Closed) I put this status on my FB yesterday…

posted 6 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

There are also MANY people that have biological children then later come out as gay/lesbian and raise those children just fine. So IMO preventing a same sex couple from adopting is just ridiculous.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

What part of your original post made this guy think that you were against gay adoption? “You’re one of the few people who agree with what I’ve said all along…”, um…?

Frankly, if a same sex couple can provide a safe and loving home for a child then why the hell shouldn’t they be able to adopt? Would it be better that that kid spends the next 18 years in foster homes with little to no stability? It doesn’t make sense to me. And you’re right, bullying happens constantly and for any reason. If they won’t be made fun of for having two moms (or dads) it will be because they’re tall, or chubby, or poor, or have a big nose, or a million other things. 

There are countless “normal couples” out there who aren’t anywhere close to being fit to be parents yet they’re able to reproduce and/or adopt a child. What’s the worst that can happen? The kid will have fantastic fashion sense?! Give me a break. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Honestly, I’m just not sure why it would ever be considered “harmful” for two committed adults in a stable relationship to adopt a child. Any male-female couple, regardless of beliefs, stability or commitment can make a baby on their own with no scrutiny or oversight from anyone. With adoptive parents of any gender or orientation, there’s at least some checks to see if you’re financially and emotionally able to raise a child. Two gay parents who’ve saved up their money and emotions to adopt a child that they really want are FAR more prepared to raise that child than a young, unemployed/under-employed couple that just had an “accident.” I just don’t understand why there is such an outcry over gay couples PLANNING to do what many straight couples try NOT to do, but end up doing (and often doing badly) all the time.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

^Get married somewhere that gay marriage is legal. Use only independent local vendors (boutique/independent hotels, caterers, dress, register at local non-chain stores, etc) wherever possible. Then send a copy of your total expenses to your congressman/woman, explaining how your state’s opposition to gay marriage cost the congressman/woman’s district $25k in spending, and how that district didn’t get a dime of tax revenue in the process.

We would welcome you in DC! In fact, our officiant married the first same-sex couple, on the first day that same-sex marriage was legal! I’m straight but I’m REALLY proud of my home town for being inclusive and welcoming to all couples!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

personally I’m against gay marriage simply because i believe marriage is sacred and belongs between a man and a woman. However, I have no problem with gays – they can do what they want, live with who they want, etc. I have a few friends that are gay and i know someone who was raised by two moms. Fiance and I discussed the issue of gays adopting children a few days ago and we both came to the same conclusion, while personally i think a child should be raised in a home with a mother and a father – the worlds not perfect and there are plenty of screwed up heterosexual couples out there whose kids could end up very screwed up and theres some gay couples that would lovingly raise the child with the freedom to make their own decisions. To say that a drugged up abusive straight couple is better then a gay couple raising a child is just wrong. Every child deserves the best possible home and if those parents happen to be gay then so be it. Deciding who can and cannot raise a child is just not what this country is about.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

@Kate0558:  can you elaborate on what about the “sacred” nature of marriage means it should ONLY belong to a man and a woman?  And further, can you explain how/if gay marriage would affect your daily life or your relationship with your husband?  I’m genuinely curious.  People like you don’t pop up in threads like this often, so I’m interested to hear what about gay marriage is so offensive or scary to you.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

@StefLovesJamie:  I am always curious for those who uphold marriage for “sacred” reasons or other religious reasons and because of that, feel that gays souldn’t be “allowed” to marry, what their god tells them to do.  I was raised catholic, but do not consider myself to be anything, anymore.  I’m not exactly atheist, but I don’t think i’m too far off, honestly.

I though christians and god-lovers worshipped a god who was good and loving when he was here, who did good works for people and wanted everyone to “love they neighbor”.  Obviously, being raised catholic I was angered at how the catholics kind of guilt you into feeling that you’re a piece of shit (all in my opinion, this is my perception) and that god is vengeful and to be feared.  Don’t have premarital sex, god will hate you!  Don’t live with your Boyfriend or Best Friend, god will hate you!  Those are things we learned in sunday school.

But, someone has taken it upon themselves to feel as though they have the right to say who can or can’t marry, don’t they ever think that this god the love so much would maybe be just a tad bit disappointed that they are basically saying other humans aren’t good enough or are too “gross” or an “abomination” to be able to experience the joys of marriage?

I don’t understand these things, but keep hoping someone with these views woudl explain their reasoning, and how this affects them.  Or why theyt hink that way. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Being gay doesn’t take away your ability to be a parent. Kids are bullied for ALL sorts of reasons. There are SOOO many kids in the world who need to be adopted, limiting the pool of applicants because of sexuality is absurd IMO.

 

As for the “sanctity” of marriage, straight people ruined that plenty of years ago. Gay marriage hurts nobody, banning gay marriage hurts many.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

@photogestelle:  In my opinion, I would THINK (and these are just my speculations) that a gay couple hoping to adopt would be motivated and prepared and ready to give it their all in a way a straight couple with an unplanned pregnancy wouldn’t.  I know this was in a previous post, but I’m not even specifically talking about an unmarried/poorly educated/under/un employed couple who had an “oops” pregnancy.  I’m talking about a maried couple that one day are like “oh, we’re pregnant.  that’s good, i guess?”  I’m just saying…there are gays out there who would stop at nothing to be parents.  And their are straight couples who have pregnancies that just kinda happen and they are just like…”meh, guess we’re going to be parents.  yay!” 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

If people like Kim Kardashian, Britney Spears, and damn Newt Gingrich didn’t tarnish the “sanctity” of marriage, gay marriage will NOT EITHER!!!!

UGH, people drive me crazy, and disgust me

OP, you are right, and your friend is a douche. Anyone who can’t believe that their own beliefs should be separate are idiots. I haven’t had ONE good reason from someone who opposes gay marriage that isn’t religious. Do you know why? BECAUSE THERE ISN”T ONE

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@MrsDrRose612:  right. gay people can’t “accidentally” get pregnant! So, they actually have to THINK about having a child, whereas heteros can get pregnant at any point, no matter how shitty of a parent they would be

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