(Closed) I quit. Giving up the gun on pre-wedding weight loss.

posted 6 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

@TogetherThroughLife:  I know what you mean about adding ‘one more thing’.  I think it just boils down to what you are willing to tackle and what you are willing to give up.  Maybe getting into the shape you desire to be for your wedding isn’t in the cards for you.  You know yourself best – meaning, if you are going to beat yourself up forever that you didn’t put more effort into it, then maybe these next few months are worth the added work.

The awesome thing is you KNOW you can do it!  

Aside from the wedding (I have no doubt you will look amazing on your wedding day regardless of the number on the scale) – the bigger picture is learning to cope with stress with other things than food, because stress will always follow you around, unfortunately.  Think of it in terms of marriage prep and learning how to be the best partner for your Fiance you possibly can be.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think this is the perfect time to try to get rid of a little weight – it’s hard to come up with good motivators and a wedding is pretty much one of the best ones you can come by.

 

Does your university have a gym or a pool that you can go to? Swimming is much easier on the body, so that might not be as bad for your hips. Also, you can go far with just changing your diet. I would recommend that you sign up for an online calorie tracker, like Calorie Count. As soon as you start to lose weight, it will also become easier to exercise.

 

I’ve lost almost 70 lbs from when I was biggest (at 120 today), so feel free to drop me a PM in case you need some pep talk!

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Hey girl – even if you can’t do / find time for exercise (understandable), diet makes SUCH a huge difference.  Just a suggestion: my Fiance and I started the South Beach Diet a week ago and so far I’ve dropped 4 pounds and he’s dropped 7.  (I’m not overweight but a little flabby around the middle, he’s probably 30 lbs overweight.)  It’s really quite easy and you can eat a lot of yummy food to your heart’s content…

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have had that problem too! Losing weight is especially hard for me and I do eat when I am stressed. I usually have no motivation to do any kind of workout, unless we are talking about a leisurely walk or a hike if the weather is nice. However, I decided I wanted to make a change, so on Jan. 2, my Fiance and I started eating paleo (though a little more primal as we eat dairy). It was difficult at first to get used to eating when I am hungry, cutting out grains and beans, and just eating so much meat, but so far, I am down 10 lbs and I have lost inches everywhere. The best part is that I’ve just been focusing on my eating and have not done much exercise at all. I have energy and more drive to do this than I’ve ever had before. A low carb diet, such a paleo or primal, may be worth a try for you. 

No matter what you decide to do or not do though, you will definitely not look ugly on your wedding day! No one will think that about you and I’m sure your Fiance won’t. Just remember that you are beautiful no matter what the number on a scale says. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m with you. I gave up trying to lose weight too and I’m ok with it. I’m 5’6″ and right around 190. And you know what? That’s ok. It’s who I am. 

I am trying my best to eat better though – fruit instead of Cheetos – but that is because I know it’s better for me, NOT because I want to lose weight

before i got engaged, no one ever said a word about my weight. Since the engagement, I am constantly asked if I’m going to the gym, if I’m on weight watchers, how much I’m planning to lose Before the wedding.  It’s an assumption people make and it’s annoying. 

Eat healthier because its good for you. Be happy with who you are because you are beautiful and your Fiance loves you 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@TogetherThroughLife:  I hope you like what you read! Even on my most stressed, so hungry, don’t care days, as long I don’t go crazy and eat a ton of carbs, I’m consistently losing without feeling deprived. It also helps that on primal you can eat dark chocolate and drink red wine ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

You don’t look your weight at all. I think you actually have an adorable shape! But your bad habits will cause you trouble down the road unfortunately.

80% of weight loss is diet. Maybe find another way to deal with stress than eating? A hobby? Therapy? Emotional eating is so tough!   Things were different with our moms. Don’t compare yourself to her!!

What about swimming? That’ll be easy on the hips.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@TogetherThroughLife:Well, a healthier diet might give you more energy for a starter and perhaps help with your health issues. Also, I’ve been an emotional eater back in the days and that’s so tooling! If you can change to something like the paleodiet, you won’t get as bad cravings – a first step towards avoiding overeating.

Oh, and don’t have junk food at home! If you do have a binge, make sure that you overeat things that are actually good for your body!

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