Post # 1
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Helper bee
FH and I were at one of his Xmas parties last night , it was a Dinner party and we were seated with 8 other people. Well one of the couples ( whom I had never met before but FH knows and we were seacted next to) brought up not getting a save the date to our wedding! In front of everyone. They knew they weren’t invited the save the dates went out months ago. The wife ( who is 34, a nurse, and had not been drinking) started getting very rude about not being invited to our wedding. She kept telling my fiancé ” well I’ve know you since you were 13 and I can’t believe you’re not inviting me” THEN they said that they also didn’t want to be back up invites ” don’t send us an invitation just because other people aren’t going to show up”. She was NOTkidding either. It go really awkward for everyone at the table my poor fiancé who is the nicest guy ever just kept being kind and was trying to explain our venue only holds 100 people and we had a lot of family that had to take priority in being invited. Well she kept on again with the I’ve known you since you were 13 and in middle school crap and that she should be Invited and then I looked at her and said ” well, if we invited everyone who has known him since he was 13 our guest list would be at 500 people which it was before we had to significantly cut it down because if we didn’t the next venue was 5 grand more and now that everyone knows that can we please change the subject because it is awkward for the other people at this table who are having to be involved in this conversation.” She gave me a look and finally stopped , Who does this ?! Were they not raised with manners? Are they just rude? We’ve had a lot of people on social media ask about the wedding or assume they’re invited ( my FH is a very large member of our community and has been for a while he knows the whole city and for some reason every person he’s ever talked to or worked with thinks their invited ) but at least I can ignore that , it’s not someone at a dinner in public with other strangers trying to put us on the spot! Ugh! Ok rant over thanks for listening to my vent 🙂
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
I think you handled it amazingly well, considering Mrs Nosey-Britches would not shut up! I would never act like she did; my mother taught me differently. Um, isn’t that what an invitation is for? To let you know that the hosts would appreciate your participation? SMH-some people.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
@Mrs Canuck: thank you! I tried sooo hard to keep my cool. I wanted to smack her and tell her off so badly lol
Post # 6
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Helper bee
@BrandNewBride: YES it was! More then I could’ve imagined!
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Good for you, I just wanted to say you handled that really well- told her exactly how it was, without being rude or insulting, and with class! And my goodness, what a rude woman! And how awkward! I do not know what I would have done, I can only hope I would have handled it the way you did (in fact I’m earmarking your response to her for use if anyone ever does this to me lol)
Post # 8
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Helper bee
@TheLawrenceBride: lol! I sure hope it never happens to you!
Post # 9
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Helper bee
@Italiandoll: My Fiance is a Fire Chief, and we have to deal with this a lot, as well. I don’t know what your Fiance does, but I def understand… We’ve even had people invite themselves like it’s no big deal, as though they just plan on “showing up” without a formal invitation. Who does that?!?!?
We try not to talk about the wedding around those that aren’t invited, both out of respect and to avoid it from being an issue. However, it’s still bound to happen and I think you handled it well.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
@smv22114: my Fiace is a fire officer also!!!! We were at one of the 2 different departments Xmas party’s! I purposely NEVER talk about the wedding at these kind of things to avoid the invitations beinG brought up. So nice someone understands my pain! Lol
Post # 11
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Helper bee
@Italiandoll: How funny! Yes– then I definitely can relate! All of the ff’s, council members, other department chiefs, their moms, cousins and brothers somehow expect to be invited. I honestly wish we could, bc it would make for a great party. However, it’s just not going to happen. We sadly couldn’t even invite many of the FFs, because it’s really just family and very close friends that will be in attendance…. And, that still makes up over 100 guests. So, we know we will be dealing with some backlash over that, too.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
@Italiandoll: Ok, so I just stalked your STD photos really quickly (cute, btw) and see you’re from FL, too…. Fiance is also a Fire Marshall and we looked into living up in GB a few months ago for a LT position. Do you like that area? We are on the fence, but only bc we aren’t familiar with it. Oh, and you guys have a Yorky, too?! My kinda girl! ;P
Post # 13
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Helper bee
@smv22114: what a small world!! FH get so much crap about that little yorkie, haha.And We LOVE it here , the beach is 5 minutes away and still feels like paradise every time we go:)
Post # 14
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Helper bee
@Italiandoll: Ours is a Yorkypoo and Fiance also gets a lot of heat for the little guy, too. : )
Thanks for the input, it looked like it was one of the nicest locations to consider near Pcola.
Post # 15
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Honey bee
@Italiandoll: I cringed just reading about it- that would have been so horribly awkward:(
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@Italiandoll: I don’t know how I would have handled that – and I am glad that I have not had to be put in that kind of a position. Some people are definitely very rude. I think you handled it as well as you could – sometimes, unfortunately, you have to be blunt because some people just do not get it.
