Post # 17
@sosadbee72: You really really need a restraining order. This guy is going crazy and blaming you. PLEASE protect yourself. If he says he’s coming over, call the non-emergency police number and ask them to do a couple extra patrols near your house. Have a friend stay over, or, better yet, stay somewhere else.
Post # 18
Change your phone number. Now.
Post # 19
@sosadbee72: “This has to stop!”
EXACTLY. Seriously, call the police and file a restraining order. This man is dangerous.
Post # 20
@sosadbee72: This behavior is threatening, you need to show the cops those texts and the note. Please file a restraining order immediately. Might also be in your best interest to invest in an alarm system for your home too. *Hugs* Sorry you’re going through this. His behavior/actions are his OWN fault and responsibility, not yours. You did not cause his self-destruction, HE did.
Post # 21
@sosadbee72: First of all, I’m really sorry to read that you have to go through this. No one deserves this treatment from anyone. I don’t want to just repeat what everyone is saying because I’m sure you pretty much get the point by now that you should contact the police, etc…
BUT I also want to mention that I have gone through schooling in psychology and recognize these as serious symptoms. Even if they are false threats to you, this man could seriously harm himself or others. If you are still in contact with his son/family members maybe they can get him to see a professional and help him figure things out. But DO NOT CONTACT HIM AT ALL….CONTACT THE POLICE. Reltionships don’t always work out. Sure they hurt, but don’t consider all of his mishaps to be your fault.
Post # 22
Contact the police, get a restraining order, protect yourself, your ex threatened you!
Post # 23
I keep wondering how someone can be so obsessed with somebody. I also keep trying to figure out how I could fall for somone like this. I can’t help feeling sorry for his son, who really is as nice and polite as can be. I don’t really hve family nearby, but I alerted my neighbors and friends and my best friend is coming over to take me to get a new number (and a new phone). But how blind am I to have not seen what kind of person he is? I thought he was so nice until the beginning of this year. I will definitely call my neighbor’s brother (I think, her brother) who is a state cop; he left me his number in case I heard from my nasty ex again. Thanks bees, I am trying to calm down, I am still kind of freaked out!
Post # 24
@sosadbee72: Ignore anyone who tells you to threaten this guy — never involve a weapon unless you are ready to discharge it and kill. Go to the police, right away. Bring the texts, take photos of the screen, and don’t reply to any more messages from him. Change your number with your cell company, you should be able to do so for free because you’re being harassed and threatened. Tell your friends and family what’s going on. Get your locks changed if this guy ever had a key, and inform your landlord if you have one that you have a stalker who is threatening you. You don’t want anyone letting him in if he used to live with you or was there all the time. If you are feeling very vulnerable, spend a little while crashing with a friend or at a hotel, especially if you think he’s going to come to your home and do something.
This is wicked scary and I am so sorry it’s happening to you. You didn’t do anything wrong, and you don’t deserve it. Take care of yourself and don’t feel guilty for a moment about it. You deserve to feel safe and to be able to move on with your life.
Post # 25
Thats scary. You should definitely get a restraining order.
Post # 26
@sosadbee72: I would definitely reccomend filing a civil protection order (depending on what the requirements are in your state) or something of the like. I am so sorry. Stay safe
Post # 27
Get a restraining order. So sorry you have to deal with this. 🙁
Post # 28
I echo all the PPs. Go to the cops, bring and show that note. Also the texts too!!!
Post # 29
You absolutely need to contact police. Do not take this matter lightly.
Be sure to keep and provide to the authorities the threatening note and any other messages, texts, etc. as evidence of the threats that have been made against you.
Do not, under ANY circumstances, agree to see this man again, even in a public place.
I am not saying these things to frighten you but to convey to you the seriousness of the situation. This man’s behavior is consistent with the psychological profile of someone who is capable of committing murder/suicide or murder/”death by cop.” I’m not saying he will do these things, only that what you are describing is consistent with this type of behavior.
Please report the threats he has made against you as soon as you can, and be careful to listen to what the authorities tell you regarding what you should or should not do.
I am so sorry that you are going through this.
Finally, I do not know what your personal beliefs are, and I do not want to in any way offend you. However, if you are a person who believes in God and the power of prayer, I recommend that you pray for God’s mighty hand of protection over your life, home, and workplace as well as against this man’s plans to follow through on any of the threats he has made against you.
Post # 30
you should really take some self defense classes in addition to everything everyone here said. restraining orders don’t prevent psychos from getting close to you. i know people think they do but they don’t. you would still need to call the cops and tell them he’s violating the order. you might not be able to call or he might try something in the time it takes the cops to show up. please please please take some classes!
Post # 31
Document everything, keep all the texts, tell your familycoworkers/friends. File for a restraining order. Get some pepper stay and take a self defense class. This man sounds seriously unstable. So sorry about your situation.