(Closed) I really don't care about flowers. My MIL does. So, why am I the contact?

posted 4 years ago in Flowers
Post # 3
460 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’d advise the florist to contact your mother-in-law, and tell them that she’s in charge of the flowers. And tell MIL that you trust her judgment and you know she’ll make amazing decisions when it comes to the flowers, and that you want them to be a surprise. Maybe that’ll make her want to do the work.

Post # 4
3574 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would fill out the form and do the consultation.  Mine was about 20 minutes.  Your MIL is trying to give you something nice for your wedding.  I think you should just suck it up and pick some flowers. 

Post # 5
822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would just complete the form, decline a consultation, and ask the florist to pick some in season flowers that goes well with your themes or colors.  Florist can also do not floral centerpieces.

Post # 6
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I would tell your FMIL to do the consult and fill out the form. You said you didn’t want or care about flowers and she is in insisting and paying so tell her to do all the work.

Post # 7
2926 posts
Sugar bee

Your FMIL should handle it if she wants them so bad. My MIL handled 90% of our wedding because I didn’t care to do it. I wanted to elope and she wanted to have a wedding so she planned and paid for it. If she wants them so bad then she should just make the decisions.

Post # 8
5664 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Agreed with PP’s why isn’t your MIL doing this? My Step mom was really into us having flowers (without her I would have just done something for centerpeices and decor without and saved the money) so she took control of it. I participated a little, especially with color, and certain flower types i liked etc but I didn’t have to do any of the arranging or delivery stuff or order forms etc… It was all her

Post # 9
10368 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

You’re the contact because it’s YOUR WEDDING, lol. I think the least you could do is be gracious and finalize things with the florist.

Post # 10
8428 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

So just meet with the florist and tell them the budget and let the florist pick it all out for you and then you won’t have to worry about anything. I’d personally be head of heels if I had someone willing to foot the bill for all my flowers!


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