Post # 17
@nl: Good points! Good points.
I think it bothers me that I know them so well. I know that they will be bugging me at the last minute to get dresses apporved and I don’t want that stress. So I was trying to get them to purchase early. They clearly aren’t getting that, so whatever. I am so done! I don’t care if they have dresses or not anymore. I am okay with standin up there by my freaking self.
I feel like I should have just been mean and made them all pick out one dress, because that’s simple for them. Oh well. Done. Done Done. I am done.
Post # 18
@Mrs. Wallaby: Thank you! It’s wayyy fabulous.
Post # 19
I feel the same way, but apparently my BMs had other plans. We went shopping at David’s Bridal and I said “please pick any dress you like in red”. Well as they were in the change rooms they started saying “shouldn’t we all wear the same dress?” and ended up all agreeing on one dress.
I also told them I don’t care what shoes they wear (the dress is long for heavens sake, no one will even see their shoes!), so we’ll see if they end up coordinating them on their own again, haha.
Post # 20
We decided to just not do the wedding party thing. We’re doing a Destination Wedding and as much as we love our friends, I saw my best friend go through so much BS with her wedding party and people backing out last minute and complaining over the dresses and I just didn’t want to deal with it. But, as far as what I’m just SO OVER, it’s mostly just planning the schedule. The idea was to have this beach wedding that was just laid back and fun but people keep making snooty comments about having a “full schedule”.. I don’t really get it, I mean I’ve planned out the whole wedding day, do I really have to give them hour by hour instructions of where to be and what to be doing for 4 days?! I’ve learned that weddings are so full of everyone elses opinions. My Fiance is so much better than me at just saying “thats not what we want, we’re not doing it” than I am, I’m like “oh…. ok….. yeah, I’ll do that”…. woof. It’s a few months away and I just want it over with.
Post # 21
@DarthBetty: Ha! Awesome gifs.
I’m with you, though I have yet to experience the drama you have – I already just DGAF. 😛
Post # 22
I would warn them that procrastination almost always equals $$$ and they should buy their dresses asap. But in the end their adults and you can’t hold their hands. They’ll have to fix the issue should they let it go too long and now they can’t find anything.
Post # 23
@DarthBetty: My wedding is in less than 2 months and my hard-to-shop-for sister JUST got her dress on Saturday. And it’s not purple.
I just said fuck it. I thought I was being the best, coolest bride by telling my girls to buy whatever dress they love, as long as it’s purple. Apparently that was too much to ask for. The other two girls just ordered there dresses last month after asking them about it at least once a month since last fall.
I am so over this entire wedding (way too many issues to list them all) And I’m so over people telling me “well at the end of the day you’re marrying the man of your dreams right?” Yeah, I am. But my fucking wedding planning was supposed to be a fun and special time and I’ve hated every god-dang second of it. I am not even remotely excited for the wedding.
Post # 24
I didn’t care either and it WILL WORK OUT! I promise you! My bridesmaids looked amazing and some of them didn’t even purchase their dresses until a month before. I think the no stress let them pick their own dresses and don’t worry about it method works. The best part: they all were comfortable, happy, and looked like themselves!
Post # 25
@MrsEsteyToBe: SO MY FEELINGS.
You guys are so great. I can’t handle the BS that other people put in the wedding. They are creating stress for me that I’ve been actively trying to avoid.
But ever since having the “who gives a fuck” attitude I’ve calmed down soooo much more. I’m trying not to worry so much about about the little touches. I bought a fantastic photographer that I thought I wasn’t going to be able to have and now everything is going breezy.
Post # 26
I like your attitude 🙂 I didn’t have bridesmaids, since I just did a City Hall wedding with family, but I’ll never quite understand why brides like people to look like clones in one matching dress that they’ve stressed over for months and cost $300. Not worth it!
Love the gifs you chose 🙂
Post # 27
@hisprettygirl: Clones is a good observation. I don’t get the want to have the stepford wives as bridesmaids
Post # 28
I told them black and knee length. They’re all college grads, they can figure it out. My wedding is like, 3 weeks away and several still don’t have dresses, but that’s the easiest dress in the world to find so if it came down to it, we could get something day of.
Post # 29
@DarthBetty: Love your attitude! I’m very much the same way! We’ve only just started planning and are having a long engagement, so I still have a ton of time, but I refuse to get stressed over any part of it. My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and I told her to pick whatever the heck she wants…style, colour, anything…go for it. I’m only having her and my brother (brides man?) on my side of the wedding party.
Do what makes you happy, enjoy your planning and best wishes for an amazing day 🙂