i really don't like my ring :(

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I understand both sides. I can’t imagine how I’d feel if I didn’t like my ring, but he went to all that trouble to design it. I would wait a while before saying anything, but I can totally understand you wanting to chnage the setting in the future. It really is a beautiful ring, that stone is to die for!

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Well hand it over here, because I’m obsessed.

Post # 34
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Helper bee

futuremagikarp:  It’s gorgeous. Everyone has different tastes. Don’t focus too much on not having a halo. Everywoman and her dog has a halo or solitaire…have to agree with you on emerald cuts, though; they are gorgeous, too. Honestly, I would remember your ring because it is unique (and beautiful). Perhaps you can do a trade in if you are really set on emerald cut? 

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I wanted an emerald cut and not sure I would have been happy with another cut. I think if you start off with positives you may be able to discuss changing it! 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

Look at it this way – if you spent thousands of dollars on a gift for your fiance, and he told you he didn’t like it and didn’t want it, would your feelings be hurt? I ask because I assume you know your fiance, and it’s totally possible he wouldn’t be sad at all. He might be eager to get you something else once he knows you’re not crazy about yours. But if you think he might be hurt, you need to weigh how much you want a prettier ring versus how much you want to preserve your fiance’s feelings.

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Pardon me while I wipe the drool off of my tablet.

Post # 38
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Your ring look like a pear shape to me. You should just like it for it’s purpose, and that’s to be wed. 

Post # 39
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Honey bee

 

I would be honest and open with my Fiance about a ring and what I dislike about it. Having said that, I’d weigh his feelings heavily in keeping a ring that he really loved/worked hard to design/etc. Your ring is lovely and classic, which would make it much easier for me to wear and appreciate, even if it wasn’t my favorite. Just my $0.02.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

My Darling Husband ignored my tastes when selecting a ring, saying “Oh honey, we can do better than that” and choosing something 100% unlike what I had described. The ring wasn’t a diamond, and I had dreamed my whole life of having a pure white diamond ring that would clearly advertise that I was engaged/married. I chose not to express my disappointment because even though it didn’t serve its purpose (most people didn’t even realize I was engaged and I even got hit on twice during my engagement!), it was so pretty and I didn’t want to upset him.

I grew to love it by:

1. showing it to women on the internet and having them gush all over it and tell me how lucky I was to have it, kind of what you’re doing right now. 

2. looking at it through DH’s eyes. He still admires it and talks about how perfect the color of the stone and 18K gold is for me, how the six-prong setting is so timeless. I realized that a lot of love went into each detail, and I thought that maybe the pure white ring of my dreams wouldn’t suit me as well. 

3. seeing the appraisal paperwork and realizing just how much $$ he had spent on it! It cost significantly more than the modest diamond ring I had wanted would have. 

Maybe asking your man about why he designed the ring the way he did and thinking about just how much of his hard-earned money went into creating this ring just for you could change your perspective? 

Post # 41
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’m so sorry that you aren’t a huge fan of your ring but I absolutely love it! Pear cuts are pretty uncommon and either you love them or hate them. I have always loved the shape and after trying on a gazillion rings I always came back to my true love (I have a pear halo e ring). Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best! 

Post # 42
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I didn’t like my engagement ring too when I first got it. I told my SO my opinion and he took me ring shopping. The funny thing was as we were ring shopping, i couldnt find anything I liked better. It’s easy to compare your current ring to your dream ring in your head but once you’re shopping around, maybe you’ll find that the grass isn’t greener? 

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