Post # 17
To be honest with you, I’ve never seen a ring like the one you posted. I’d expect it to be pretty hard to find and also pretty expensive judging by the look of the total carat weight and the micropave (it’s like micro-micro-micropave).
If it makes you feel any better, the one you want would be hard to wear day to day — you run a high risk of losing those tiny stones, especially in an eternity setting like that. every time you pick something up, open a door, touch anything with your hand, those diamonds have a chance to hit something and fall out/crack/get damaged, etc. I also can’t imagine that it would be very comfortable to wear because of how wide the setting is and how much the diamonds stick out.
Post # 18
Depending on the size/specs of those stones, it could’ve cost more than the solitaire? He could be embarrased at how much he spent? It looks pretty large in the photo you’ve posted. That being said, it doesn;t matter how much was spent, you will be wearing it for the rest of your life, you have to love it! if you can’t get behind it after wearing it for a week or two, I would pick something out you both like.
Post # 19
I think the second picture is your actual ring. I actually like the three halo ring. But like a PP said you have to be happy with it, so you should exchange it. But if it were me, I’d wait to see if it grow on you.
Post # 20
@Prettyowleyes: I’m guessing the three stone halo is the ring you don’t love (you mentioned not liking the double halo effect)? I think that halo wedding band you posted is gorgeous, but I can see how that would be hard to find at a typical chain store. That definitely looks like something custom made. How seriously did you and your Fiance talk about rings? Did you just think you liked the halo idea?
FWIW your ring does not look cheap. It’s a lovely ring, and while it might not be everyone’s style I doubt you’ll get anyone insulting it. I bet if you talked to your Fiance about why you don’t love it (i.e. it’s uncomfortable to wear at work) and went about it in a calm and rational way, he won’t think that you are behaving like his ex and just want to upgrade. Ultimately, just be honest. A good marriage has to start there anyway.
Post # 21
Oh, I had it backwards, I definately prefer the one you wanted.
Post # 22
@Prettyowleyes: The one on your finger looks like a lot of bee rings here. The other one is unique–I’ve never seen one like it, so I’m not surprised that he couldn’t find one like it in a store or two. Look–men don’t like to run around to a billion stores to find something–they just want to buy it.
At this time now–please– take charge of this situation. Find The Ring that you want (and make sure it’s the right price range) and say: here it is, honey, let’s go buy it. Time is wasting and your days to exchange the other ring are diminishing.
I don’t blame him, again, for not getting something more like the one you wanted because it doesn’t look like an e-ring (nothing wrong with that) and it looks as though his relatives picked out something as like it as they could get.
edited to add: I’m glad someone else mentioned the potential cost of the ring you want. It looks very expensive to me, all of those center stones look like they are 1/3 to 1/5 c.
Post # 23
@Prettyowleyes: I can’t figure out which photo you like the most but I’m assuming it’s the first one. I’m not sure what your fiance’s budget is, but Tiffany definitely makes a ring just like that. They also make a less expensive version with 3 stones. It’s called their circlet ring.
Post # 24
I can see why they chose the ring they chose–it looks like the engagement ring equivalent to the more wedding-ring style that you like.
That said, since you’ve disclosed that you don’t like the ring, it’s kind of hard not to follow through at this point and get a new one. My advice in this sense is to take a deep breath and calm down–because when you are so dramatic like this, it makes it a huge deal and you’re upset and then your Fiance feels bad and the whole things gets awkward and messy.
Instead, see this for what it is: it’s. just. a. ring. And for Pete’s sake–his mom and sister came along! Are you really going to tell us it’s some sort of sacrosanct tribute to your intimacy when his mom and sister helped pick it out? You’re marrying the MAN forever, not the ring. So put on a smile and just say, “Oh darling. I love you, but you have SO much to learn about jewelry! Let’s go do this together and I’ll show you the ropes.” It’s not a referendum on your relationship that he chose the wrong ring, unless you act like it is. Instead, make it an opportunity to laugh and share the shopping experience together. Lots of couples do that for engagement rings anyway, and even more do it for wedding bands, and it’s perfectly romantic.
One last thing–don’t blink about the budget. Whatever the budget is, accept it. And if $1,000 is too modest for you, Ms. Thang! then I suggest you change your mindset: for one, don’t start down the road of equating your love with a dollar (the X’s was worth $12K; yours is worth perhaps less–so what? You are the one getting HIM), and two remember that an engagement ring is your FI’s FIRST piece of jewelry to you–there will be much opportunity in your life together for him to outdo himself.
Post # 25
@Prettyowleyes: your ring is actually very pretty! I don’t think it’s ugly. it’s not really my style but I still wouldn’t call it ugly!!
Post # 26
@Prettyowleyes: I’m still confused about which is which, but like all the rings!!! If you really don’t like it, find the one you want and show him. If it’s been weeks… do you still have time to do an exchange or return?
Post # 27
I love the first ring you posted. I would wear the heck out of that thing as my wedding band.
I also think the second ring (the finger photo) looks more expensive than you have estimated. However, considering everything else you’ve said, I’d be disappointed, too. It sounds like he didn’t really take your requests seriously. I’m sure he would have had better luck with your family members helping him rather than his own.
Post # 28
Lol…thanks! I still hate it but he’s not bringing up the subject of changing it….I guess he thinks I’ll forget about it
Post # 29
Also, there’s no way that ring cost $1000, especially if he bought it from a mall store/chain. It’s hard to get a sense of the size of the stones from that picture, but there’s no way he picked that up for 1k unless it’s CZ or something.
Post # 30
@Prettyowleyes: OMG. Tell me where you found that halo band?????
Post # 31
@Prettyowleyes: Hi Pretty! First, your proposal ring that you received is beautiful btw…but if you don’t like it, you don’t like it.
The ring you wanted is a popular Pinterist ring and it is a Tiffany original. It’s called the Tiffany Circlet Band Ring with the following description:
Circles of diamonds in timeless elegance. Band ring of round brilliant diamonds in platinum. Carat total weight 1.08. Price: $7,800.
Here’s a link to the page for further info. http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/Item.aspx?fromGrid=1&sku=GRP03886&mcat=&cid=&search_params=p+1-n+10000-c+-s+1-r+-t+circlet-ni+1-x+-lr+-hr+-ri+-mi+-pp+320+2&search=1&origin=search&searchkeyword=circlet
FYI: Your Fiance could only pruchase this ring from either Tiffany or from a reseller. This is probably why he was unable to find it. Also, the total carat weight is 1.08 ctw, which means that it may not appear as “big” as you think…so I would suggest visiting a Tiffany store to try it on…its a gorgeous ring with bezel set diamonds that shouldn’t snag your gloves. . 🙂