(Closed) I really don’t understand why it is so hard to RSVP

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@dolphindoll: people are rude. you did everything right… i would get contact numbers for the people from the bride… or ask her to call…

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am having the same problem with people not responding to my sister’s shower.  Next friday is the deadline and half the people I sent invitations to haven’t responded.  It is so frustrating.  All I did was put my phone number which I think was enough.  By you giving your number and email people should have RSVP’d with no problem. 

For my sister’s shower we have to pay per person so we will need to know every person that is attending.  People are rude.  And let me tell you how lucky you are having the bridesmaids helping you, I have done everything on my own for this entire shower, I ask the bridesmaids for help and none of them can be bothered to help me.  There are 8 of us total. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think people don’t really understand how annoying it is. I know I used to wait till the last minute to RSVP for things, until I got married. Now I know how awful it is to have to track people down, so I do it right when I get the invite.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yup – it’s frustrating…

My mom is hosting my shower this Sunday – and the deadline was this past Thursday.  Of course about a third didn’t respond to her so *I* had to get in touch with them. 

Holy awkward. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t get it either.  It is so easy to RSVP.  I’ve always done it right away.  I think a lot of people wait until last minute just because they can or something.  I’m really irritated with this right now because we made our RSVP date a week later than we were supposed to and I feel like there are going to be more than a few people who haven’t responded by our actual deadline. I know it’s our fault, but still. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think people just forget to do it and cant decide if they are coming… I dont think they intend to be rude. But it still is very frustrating. I’m sitting around waiting for RSVPs to come in.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

ugh we had this problem. my aunt had to chase people down – and even have me chase some people down that they couldn’t get in touch with! the answer (from some people)? “Well, I figured since I wasn’t going, it didn’t matter if I didn’t RSVP or not” ..um, wow, brilliant. We did need a food count and stuff! Grr.

Speaking of RSVPs, we actually have been having people literally message me online and ask if they really need to RSVP. I gave you a pre-stamped envelope! JUST DO IT! Yell

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@sorrycharlie: Seriously??? ::facepalm:: Hearing that worries me. People..sheesh!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@sorrycharlie:  It’s ridiculous, isn’t it?!  I sent a test invite to my bridesmaid about 2 weeks before the rest of them went out to make sure they would mail ok…

I’m still waiting for hers back.  I asked her if she was ever going to send it and she said, do I have to?  YES!  YOU DO!

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think people intend to be rude necessarily, I just think that a lot of people are procrastinators, and even if they know they are/are not coming, if the deadline says June 1, they are sending it out May 31.  Or maybe this is just my family… there are people that my mom said she’s talked to about booking rooms, and say they are definitely coming.  I tell my mom that they didn’t RSVP, and she says “well, they have until June 1st.”  We sent out our invitations on April 12.  I know it’s our fault for making the RSVP date too late, but still.  I get it if you don’t know if you are coming or not, but I think most people can figure out within a few days if they are available and want to come. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow, you got all but nine responses? Only four out of the twenty five women I invited RSVP’d. Four. I’m a little past the breaking point with RSVPs in general.

Post # 14
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866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Apparently, responding to invitations is now a massive imposition, and people just can’t be bothered. Outside of weddings and showers (bridal, baby, etc.) most parties are planned via e-mail or social media. When was the last time you had to personally call or mail a response for a friend’s birthday party? Family reunion? Drinks with co-workers?

As the digital age begins its final takeover, the so-called “old fashioned” means of communication inevitably fall by the wayside.

The real answer to the question of why it’s so hard for people to respond? Sheer and utter laziness, IMO. At least I know that anyone who reads Weddingbee will reply promptly and with a sweet note attached! 😀

Post # 16
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Wannabee

I know exactly how you feel. I am hosting a shower this weekend, sent out 72 invites…received 10…wow! I just don’t want to be stuck with too much or too little. I guessed about 30 to show.

It’s so frustrating.

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