Post # 1
I am having a blast preparing a bridal shower for my best friend, and the other bridesmaids have been super helpful and sweet. The only trouble I’ve run into is that today the RSVP deadline has officially come and gone and 9 people have not responded! That’s nearly a third of the invitees…
I provided an email address and phone number to respond to. As frustrated as I am right now, I cannot imagine how infuriated I would be if this were a wedding I was planning and had to submit official head counts!
When did common courtesy go out of fashion? Is there a way I could have made it EASIER to rsvp?
Post # 3
@dolphindoll: people are rude. you did everything right… i would get contact numbers for the people from the bride… or ask her to call…
Post # 4
I am having the same problem with people not responding to my sister’s shower. Next friday is the deadline and half the people I sent invitations to haven’t responded. It is so frustrating. All I did was put my phone number which I think was enough. By you giving your number and email people should have RSVP’d with no problem.
For my sister’s shower we have to pay per person so we will need to know every person that is attending. People are rude. And let me tell you how lucky you are having the bridesmaids helping you, I have done everything on my own for this entire shower, I ask the bridesmaids for help and none of them can be bothered to help me. There are 8 of us total.
Post # 5
I think people don’t really understand how annoying it is. I know I used to wait till the last minute to RSVP for things, until I got married. Now I know how awful it is to have to track people down, so I do it right when I get the invite.
Post # 6
Yup – it’s frustrating…
My mom is hosting my shower this Sunday – and the deadline was this past Thursday. Of course about a third didn’t respond to her so *I* had to get in touch with them.
Post # 7
I don’t get it either. It is so easy to RSVP. I’ve always done it right away. I think a lot of people wait until last minute just because they can or something. I’m really irritated with this right now because we made our RSVP date a week later than we were supposed to and I feel like there are going to be more than a few people who haven’t responded by our actual deadline. I know it’s our fault, but still.
Post # 8
I think people just forget to do it and cant decide if they are coming… I dont think they intend to be rude. But it still is very frustrating. I’m sitting around waiting for RSVPs to come in.
Post # 9
ugh we had this problem. my aunt had to chase people down – and even have me chase some people down that they couldn’t get in touch with! the answer (from some people)? “Well, I figured since I wasn’t going, it didn’t matter if I didn’t RSVP or not” ..um, wow, brilliant. We did need a food count and stuff! Grr.
Speaking of RSVPs, we actually have been having people literally message me online and ask if they really need to RSVP. I gave you a pre-stamped envelope! JUST DO IT!
Post # 10
@sorrycharlie: Seriously??? ::facepalm:: Hearing that worries me. People..sheesh!
Post # 11
@sorrycharlie: It’s ridiculous, isn’t it?! I sent a test invite to my bridesmaid about 2 weeks before the rest of them went out to make sure they would mail ok…
I’m still waiting for hers back. I asked her if she was ever going to send it and she said, do I have to? YES! YOU DO!
Post # 12
I don’t think people intend to be rude necessarily, I just think that a lot of people are procrastinators, and even if they know they are/are not coming, if the deadline says June 1, they are sending it out May 31. Or maybe this is just my family… there are people that my mom said she’s talked to about booking rooms, and say they are definitely coming. I tell my mom that they didn’t RSVP, and she says “well, they have until June 1st.” We sent out our invitations on April 12. I know it’s our fault for making the RSVP date too late, but still. I get it if you don’t know if you are coming or not, but I think most people can figure out within a few days if they are available and want to come.
Post # 13
Wow, you got all but nine responses? Only four out of the twenty five women I invited RSVP’d. Four. I’m a little past the breaking point with RSVPs in general.
Post # 14
Apparently, responding to invitations is now a massive imposition, and people just can’t be bothered. Outside of weddings and showers (bridal, baby, etc.) most parties are planned via e-mail or social media. When was the last time you had to personally call or mail a response for a friend’s birthday party? Family reunion? Drinks with co-workers?
As the digital age begins its final takeover, the so-called “old fashioned” means of communication inevitably fall by the wayside.
The real answer to the question of why it’s so hard for people to respond? Sheer and utter laziness, IMO. At least I know that anyone who reads Weddingbee will reply promptly and with a sweet note attached! 😀
Post # 15
I have since gotten two more responses… both were “maybes.” I get that there are extenuating circumstances and everybody has a lot more going on in their lives than my friend’s bridal shower… But these two are adult women on her side of the family. It’s Tuesday. How can you not give me a definite answer about what you will be doing on Sunday?
@magicpotato: that is just ridiculous! four?! FOUR?! I’d be pulling my hair out.
Post # 16
I know exactly how you feel. I am hosting a shower this weekend, sent out 72 invites…received 10…wow! I just don’t want to be stuck with too much or too little. I guessed about 30 to show.
It’s so frustrating.