I really like this guy, but….?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

mindzoo :  I would just like to know is this legit or just excuses?

He told you he doesn’t want to see you anymore so it’s over. Doesn’t matter if you think his reasons are good enough. Move on.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I mean does it matter if he really isn’t ready to date or it’s just an excuse? Either way the result is he doesn’t want to date you so I would just move on.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Sorry girl – you are either getting blown off, or put in the “emergency” pile. Move on – online dating is a numbers game…you will meet someone good! 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

He’s telling you all you need to know- he dosen’t want to date.

Plus- red flag with him blocking you.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’ve dated some form of this dude many times. They come on super strong, only to pull the reins wayyyy back the moment you start to get interested. These dudes love the chase but aren’t ready for actual commitment.

Unfortunately, it does sound like he has made it pretty clear he’s not intersted in pursuing anything further with you. Agree with pp…no point in analyzing his reasons. Cut your losses and move on!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

mindzoo :  again, why does it matter if he’s jerking you around or not? You’ve said that’s happened to you before, don’t fall for it again. Block him from contacting you and keep fishing girl!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

mindzoo :  if he does come back, block him like he blocked you. he’s told you everything you need to know. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

mindzoo :  If he does come back, it means he’s a jerk who’s willing to fuck with your feelings, so you tell him to kick rocks. A guy that really wants to be with you won’t confuse you or hurt you–wait for that kind of guy. 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

You are putting the cart before the horse. First off he hasn’t come back yet…all he’s told you is he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. I would believe him.

If by some chance he does come crawling back later, shut him down. He seems dramatic and unstable (the social media blocking is an extreme measure). You deserve a lot better. 

Plenty of people go on dozens of dates with people they met online before finding someone who really clicks. I know it’s frustrating when you get excited about someone and they turn out to be subpar…but please don’t sell yourself short. Keep looking. Someone better will eventually come along. Even if they dont (which won’t happen), it’s better to be single than be with some flaky dickhead like the guy you’re talking about now.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

mindzoo :  

Here is the thing about online dating – because people can find out so much about you so quickly, they often play into the person you want them to be, not necessarily who they are. The guy is showing you NOW who he really is – a liar. He may have felt like a great match, but he clearly isn’t the great guy you thought he was or still hope he will be. There are TONS of great guys out there – don’t waste your time wondering “what if” with this one

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

Well I would say you need to take resopnsibility for your text bombing behavior rather than blaming it purely on your anxiety. But even in your case, your anxiety doesn’t make you withdraw from someone you like. The guy you were dating is behaving like a dick. Whether that’s because of his anxiety or because he’s just a dick in general seems like kind of a moot point to me. 

As pp said…i wouldn’t waste another moment of your time analyzing the behavior of a person who treated you so badly, and who has expressed less than zero interest in dating you again. You can do a lot better. time to move on. If your anxiety is really bad maybe look into counseling for that.

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