(Closed) I really love her but FMIL is driving me up the wall about the reception food!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Maybe tell her that you are looking at options outside of just buffets, or that very few people have ever starved on a three course meal with cake.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Just explain that you feel a sit down dinner is more elegant and fits better with your wedding in general 

Id definitely be standing my ground – sounds like a great deal 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I would tell her that you and Fiance would like to change things up from the engagement party and have an elegant 3 course meal. Tell her nicely that there will be plenty food for everyone and that no one will go hungry. Also mention how you’d hate to have your guests wait in line for the food, especially the older people. I would mention that the guests would be waited on hand and foot and everyone will be taken care of. 🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s your wedding, your food, go with what you want because I can guarantee you’ll regret it if you don’t.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@Lillyrose:  +1000000

Your wedding, not your FMIL’s, and plated meal is definitely enough food! Is she contributing to the cost of food and drink for the wedding? If not she gets NO say. If she is, she gets some say, but the decision is ultimately yours of what food, etc you serve and how it is served

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t get it, it’s your wedding right? Why does she get to choose a buffet when you guys have already chosen a plated meal? I think your Fiance needs to handle this situation.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can you show her pictures of the portion sizes of the plated meal? I know I have been to plated dinners with very skimpy portion sizes, and a buffet would have alleviated some of that. But I have also been to plated dinners with big portions. Maybe ask your caterer the standard size or some pic of the dinner may help ease her mind.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Go with the sit down meal.  Be straight forward with her and just tell her you value her thoughts but you will be having a sit down meal.

 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@sunshinewish15:  i guess whoever is paying gets the final say.  but tell her this is your and your FI’s wedding and you always dreamed of having a seated dinner.

BTW  buffets are usually more expensive that sitdown because they have to prepare more food not knowing how much people are going to take.

 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

If this is what you and Fiance want then go with that, and be honest with your Mother-In-Law about that. Just say, “We like the elegant feel of a sit down rather than a buffet, so that is what we will be doing for our wedding.”

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Is she paying for it? If not, simply smile and say we will take that into consideration and do exactly what you originally planned.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@sunshinewish15:  Unless she’s paying for the entire wedding then I think you just say calmly and firmly that you’ve decided to go with the plated dinner.

I think its a little silly to think anyone is going to go hungry with a three course plated dinner.  If they want to gorge themselves they can hit the Golden Corral on the way home.

 

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Jacqui90:  <


Flawless advice.

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