I really need advice

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
  • poll: What do I do
    Block him and give up : (53 votes)
    98 %
    Feel broken and lost forever : (0 votes)
    Fight for him : (0 votes)
    Give up and don't block him knowing he could text me any day : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1048 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    You’re not going to feel broken forever.  You are having a shitty break-up from your shitty first relationship.  It sucks, we’ve all been there, and you will look back on this someday and laugh at the thought that it actually mattered.

    Block him, move on and in ten or fifteen years you’ll be on some message board somewhere reassuring a young woman in a similiar situation that she’ll get over it.

    Seriously, we’ve all been there.

    Post # 4
    Member
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    Have some respect for yourself and end things.  Block him now.

    Post # 5
    Member
    573 posts
    Busy bee

    Oh you’ll find happiness but not with him. You need to make a clean break NOW. No contact whatsoever. Change your number block him on social media and move on with your life. You’ve wasted too much time on someone who DOESN’T WANT YOU. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    NO CONTACT.  He can’t be “lurking” if you don’t let him.  Have some damn respect for yourself!  I can’t for the life of me understand how you can make excuses about how wonderful his personality is..treating you right should be #1 on your list of priorities.

    Post # 7
    Member
    768 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    One of my favorite quotes on toxic relationships: “some people bring out the worst in your, others bring out the best, and then there are those remarkably rare, addictive ones who just bring out the most. Of everything. They make you feel so alive that you’d follow them straight into hell, just to keep getting your fix.”

    My first relationship was pretty toxic and I thought that this is what love feels like, the constant fear of losing someone you care about. I promise you that pit of your stomach feeling isn’t love and no one who truly care about you would make you feel that way. Step away and don’t hope he will change. Focus on what you weren’t getting from that relationship and look for that in your next one when you’re ready.

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    I feel like I’ll never find this love again.”

    So you feel like you will never find someone who disrespects you, tells you he lost feelings for you, cheats on you, tells you he doesn’t want a relationship yet gets into relationships with other women? I hope you don’t find love like that again because that is not love.

    You are a warm body he whispers sweet things to occasionally so he gets sex. Stop settling and being his personal toy to play with. You could almost have no expectations for being treated well and any any man would meet them more than this dude does.

    Block him and demand more of your partners, way more.

    Post # 9
    Member
    38 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2020

    He does not love you. You are interchangeable to him. He does not have an ouze of respect for you.

    Ask yourself if you really want some boy who thinks with his dick or if you want a partner for life. You deserve someone who truely wants to be with you. This dude does not.

    Post # 10
    Member
    235 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2023

    You both seem like you are still in high school. There is no love from him. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    21 posts
    Newbee

    He is using you because he knows you’ll always take him back.  Cut contact.  It’s really hard to do, but in the future, you’ll be glad you did.  I’ve been through this, and I’m sure many other people here have as well.  There is someone better out there for you who you will be happy with.  This isn’t happiness.  Good luck and stay strong <3

    Post # 13
    Member
    573 posts
    Busy bee

    angelina1327 :  It is this thing that adults call infatuation. It’s not love, it’s not healthy and it’s not even permanent. Have some dignity for goodness sakes. You’re nothing to this person and he will continue to leave for better things and come back when they don’t pan out unless you stop this. 

    He’s not hurting you, you’re hurting yourself.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1631 posts
    Bumble bee

    This isn’t love. He DOES NOT and WILL NEVER love you. 

    When someone loves you, they treat you well. It’s not about the connection, that’s just hormones. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    319 posts
    Helper bee

    You’re obsessed with him. It’s not love, it’s not real, it’s certainly not healthy. How many times does he have to tell you he doesn’t want you? He’s using you for sex and someone to ease his lonelienss because you’re there whenever he wants you to be. 

    Block him, move on. Tell him you want nothing to do with him. Work on yourself instead and be your own happiness before relying on someone else to make you feel loved and happy. 

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