I really need advice

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
  • poll: What do I do
    Block him and give up : (53 votes)
    98 %
    Feel broken and lost forever : (0 votes)
    Fight for him : (0 votes)
    Give up and don't block him knowing he could text me any day : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    9100 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    You love him.

    He does not love you. He is using you because he knows you will take him back no matter what he does. He could murder someone, cry in your arms, and you’d take him back.

    Have some respect for yourself and block him. Time heals all wounds. You’ll know real love when you feel it, and when you do you’ll wonder why you even bothered with anything less.

    Post # 17
    Member
    66 posts
    Worker bee

    Hey Bee, breakups SUCK, I’m going through one now too.  I strongly encourage you to read some of the amazing articles from this relationship blog; they will help you see things differently and feel better about yourself:

    http://annabash.com/

    Also, check out the breakup phone App, “Mend”.

    If you go no contact, YOU will have power over him. He will think, “why isn’t she calling? Is she over me?”  You WANT that power. It will make you strong.

    You already know this, but you CAN do better, you WILL do better. And although you aren’t ready to date now, when you are, there are so many guys out there!  And you will get to fall in love all over again and it will be amazing.  

    It’s natural to miss someone and the idea of your future you had, but that doesn’t mean that that someone, and that future, were right for you.  THe more you keep seeing this guy, the harder it will be on you when he fails to change – and he won’t.

    You can do this!

    Post # 18
    Member
    45 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    angelina1327 :  I’m going to be your best friend now and give you some advice. End it. Block him. Do whatever you can to stay away from this guy. It is obvious he’s using you as security and he’s using you as a way to feel superior. Stop doing this to yourself and move on completely. No one deserves this especially you!

    At the end of the day you need to come to terms with not only how toxic this so called relationship is but how much you see your self worth. No one can be there for you like you can and you need to start treating yourself like you’re worth it. Being with this guy is not treating yourself with respect. 

     

    Move on and live your life honey, no one should be heartbroken over one asshole. 

     

     

    You got this!

    Post # 19
    Member
    45 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    angelina1327 :  because he’s your first. Everyone can easily fall in love with a first but what’s not ok is when you allow someone to misuse that love for their own benefit and gain. Darling you deserve so much better, you need to stop doing this to you and because he knows what you like to hear he’ll continue to use you until you put your foot down. Stop trying to fix something that isn’t worth fixing. 

    Post # 20
    Member
    38 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2020

    then what is it? Why do I feel so connected to him?” i‘m sorry if i’m too honest or too hard to you, but to me it reads like you do really love him. But he does not love you back. Compare the way you treat him with the way he treats you. Or his current girlfriend for that matter.You deserve better and i hope one day you’ll have a secure and fulfilling relationship and look back at this post laughing. 

    Post # 21
    Member
    530 posts
    Busy bee

    Block him cut off all contact w/ this asshole. He is not worth your time or effort hun. He will just continue to use you & just tell you what you like to hear until YOU put your foot down bc he knows you will be right there w/ open arms. He isn’t & will NEVER change. Stop trying to fix something that can’t be fixed. 

    You deserve way better than this bee! 

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