(Closed) I really need advice on how to approach this issue

posted 7 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That is a huge concern and they definitely need to see a doctor – does the person have someone close to them you could talk to about the issue? A spouse or something? It’s hard to say without knowing how they’re related. But yes, I would have a talk (preferably face to face) where you explain things like what you told us in this post, and that you’re worried and there is a lot of different things that can cause that kind of memory loss and you hope they’ll see a doctor to figure out what could be going on.

 

ETA: Yeah, if it’s your mom, it’s definitely time for a face to face conversation where you tell her you’re very worried, and offer to accompany her to the doctor.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow, I’d say this needs to be addressed like yesterday.

Sounds very serious. I’m so sorry you are in this situation. 

I would recommend telling them asap and being there for any and all support needed. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@mandb122: could it possibly be signs of early dementia? I think if I were you, I would talk to her about it, and ask if she’s had that happen before. Keep track of when its happened, and if its not just a fluke, she should definitely go see a doctor

I will say, this happened to me last year. I had talked to my brother one night and he asked if I could pick him up from work the next day, so I said fine I would. He text me the next day saying he was getting off at 1, to which I just said ok, wondering why he sent that. Then, I went about my business until about 4 when I get home and my brother was there all pissed off at me cuz I left his stranded for 2 hours!!  I totally forgot about our conversation the night before, and immediately burst into tears. ONce he realized I had just totally forgotten, things were fine, but it scared the crap out of me that I had totally forgotten an entire conversation

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mandb122: Can you and your brother go talk to her together?

Have you talked to your brother about it yet?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Does your mom take any medicine like for anxiety perhaps?  Sometimes that can contribute to similar symptoms.  When you say she drinks regularly is it often enough that you think it might be a problem?

 

either way,  definitely an MD visit is in order– and I would just be blunt,  you’re concerned about the memory lapse

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@mandb122: I am so, so, so sorry to hear that you’re going through this right now. Not knowing you or your mother personally and not wanting to jump to conclusions, I’d say that this is definitely a concern that you’ll want to raise with your mother’s doctor. 

That being said, I worked for several years with an Alzheimer’s treatment research group and so I’m going to suggest that you check out this website, which might help you find a way to talk to your mom about going to see the doctor. Even if it’s not that specific disease, the website has some great resources about initiating conversations, which is what it seems like you need most right now. You said there was a history of alcohol, which can be a contributing factor to memory loss that looks a lot like Alzheimer’s. 

No matter what happens, the important thing to remember is that there is a lot of research being done in this area right now and there are definitely treatments available that can help delay the progress of symptoms if she gets help early. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

We are facing issues like this with my Grandpa. 🙁 The best thing is to go talk to her, there are lots of treatments now that while they won’t cure her, they have been shown to help delay the issues. And any more lucid years is better than nothing.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I certainy agree that a full PCP work up is necessary.  If she’s in the process of going through menapause, the lack of estrogen can have a part in some of the memory lapses… or she’s thinking/worrying/anxious about something and not listening to you even though she seems to be present.  As a nurse, we’re always told that Alzheimers isn’t a matter of “where you put the keys” but not knowing “what the keys are for.”  Perhaps that distinction will help alleviate some of your anxiety.  Good luck!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Also sorry to hear you’re going threw this especially long distance… It is really scary with our parents getting older.  I’m hoping it is a fluke and she was just super tired or something

 

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@mandb122: I wasn’t attacking. Just explaining how I would feel with the severity of it. That’s all. 

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