(Closed) I really need advice right now bees :'-(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
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  • Post # 46
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    One of my good friends has found herself in a similar position and, like in your workplace, management is complacent and allows this sort of stuff to happen. I really don’t think there’s any way out of the situation beyond what you’ve already tried and what other bees have been recommending (regarding going to HR). You need to find another job and get out, because it sounds like you can’t make it stop, and it doesn’t sound like you’re going to learn to live with it anytime soon. 

    Post # 48
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    Newbee

    I would say the best solution is to find another job.

    But while you are there the best advice I could give you is that when you are doing something right, there will always be people that hate you. Just flip your mood and think that you are obviously someone these girls feel threatened by. 

    Sometimes I have a hard day for the same reason because someone went out of their way to exclude me or say something about me. But my fiance did point out that this was happening more when I was doing well at work. anyways, in those scenarios I’ve just kept it to myself and concentrated on doing well at my job. So far that has worked out well and I didn’t end up saying something that I regret. 

    Post # 49
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    Bumble bee

    Something no one has said.. Why don’t you stand up to them?  I’m thinking: when little kids get bullied, the ones who keep quiet and tell their mommy and teacher continue to get bullied.  The ones who stand up to the bullies (or have other people do it for them) tend to get something across.

    Say “What did you say, __?” when they’re whispering in a meeting.  If you’re at your cubicle, why not say “You guys are so immature.  Shut the f– up.”  Sitting there meekly and hiding behind your hair isn’t going to do anything but cause them to laugh more!!  

    If your’e not brave enough to do that, ASK people you work with and trust to stand up for you.  You’re saying these bitches do it around other people?  Say, “Hey Josh, next time they pull that crap I would really appreciate if you said somethign on my behalf.”

    Best of luck.

    Post # 50
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    Helper bee

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    SaraJeanQ:  I see what you are saying but if management is complacent about it and the three stooges keep reporting her for every mistake she makes, this has a high chance of backfiring against her. Like “not only does she makes mistakes but she insults or is sassy to other employees!”. That could be a reason for dismissal, bad conduct. Even if everyone knows that she was the victim first, she could be made a scapegoat out of this.

    But in everyday life, I would totally suckerpunch these bitches

    Post # 51
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    Tabrett Maria:  Can you escalate this to HR?  Have back-up documentation (the nasty email) and proof that you’ve gone to your supervisor and the issue is not rectified.  I know maybe this isn’t a good option for you…. but until you find a new job or these b*tches find something better to do with their lives, this might be it.  Can you see about getting transferred to another team?

    When work sucks, it’s hard not to let it extend to other areas of your life and let it get you down.  It goes beyond grinning and bearing it.

    Post # 52
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    Tabrett Maria:  Please remember these women are terribly insecure and rather than be proactive and work on their issues, they’d rather take it out on you.  Do not let it get you down.  Find a recruiter and shimmy on out of there.

    Post # 53
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    267 posts
    Helper bee

    Send a strongly worded email to your employer, reminding them that they have a LEGAL obligation to investigate and properly deal with workplace harassment.  If you have proof, pass it along.

    If nothing is done within a reasonable time period, seek legal counsel, and get really serious with your employer, and their obligation to fix it.

    Post # 54
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    310 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    It sounds like a hostile work environment

     

    http://www.dol.gov/oasam/programs/crc/2011-workplace-harassment.htm

     

    You really have four choices:

    1) Get a new job

    2) Go to HR and claim hostile work environment and ask for you to be transferred/removed from the situation.  Do they have another department you could be moved to?  If not, maybe set up a mediation meeting with HR, your boss, and them. Keep a documented list of every time they say something, send you an email, etc.  Keep a trail of evidence.

    3) Write them an email and tell them you don’t care if they talk about you and seriously ignore them (if at all possible)

    4)  Get legal advice

    Post # 55
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

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    Tabrett Maria:  There are legal protectiosn from being punished for making a legitimate complaint. If you have documentation then definitely go to HR or the person above your supervisor.

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