- 4 years ago
Ok guys, this is my very first post and I really created this account because I need some advice and I need to vent privately!! I am getting married to my high school sweetheart in a few months. I have been graduated for almost two years and we have been together for 3.5 years. Looking at all the posts without an account, I see that a lot of people can be rude and I’m sure the fact that I’m not “old” enough will catch me some crap.. Please save it and just let me gripe. I need some friends who will sympathize with me without telling anyone lol.
I pretty much fell in love with my fiancé the first time I saw him, before we even talked. He was a year older than me and I just figured it was a crush that wouldn’t go anywhere, oh boy, high school drama LOLl. He dated a girl that lived out of state when we were in school. They saw each other probably three weeks of the whole year. We started dating a few months after they broke up, after we were best friends for two years, while I was secretly in love with him. Not a big deal right? Wrong. She has caused me so much pain and misery, it’s ridiculous.
His sister LOVES this girl. He is the baby of the family, so his sister is 20 years older than him and they are very close. He played sports in school and she brought the ex to his game, when he had a girlfriend, ME. BROUGHT HER TO THE GAME WHILE I WAS SITTING RIGHT THERE. I know that I sound childish, but this whole situation is something that is now affecting our adult relationship. I was very heartbroken over this, because what type of person does that? The ex constantly texted him and tried to have contact with his family. She finally threw a little hissy fit and deleted his number after he blew up on her for stalking the both of us. That solved the texting problem, but she was and still is a pain on social media. He put something about college athletics and she told him that he should come to her state to play. Y’all this girl is evil, I’m telling you lol. The sister then tagged the ex and said how glad she was that the girl was coming down over the summer. GAG. Recently, we went somewhere and the sister pulled up a picture of the girl on her phone and casually laid her hand on her lap where we could all see the picture. Imagine how hurt I was, considering we are getting married, I think it’s time to let it go.
My fiancé’s mom is very jealous so we get along when it comes to being crazy. I have expressed how I don’t like the ex because she wouldn’t leave our relationship alone. She recently made a facebook and is now friends with the ex.. Even though we specifically connect on being crazy about exes together. So ironic. Anyway, the ex is constantly liking everything the family puts and it makes me cringe. Not to mention, she’s drop dead gorgeous. You know how “first loves” are and my SI told me that he was really in love with her, even though she cheated on him and their relationship was a total joke from my standards. It has made me very self conscious about wondering if given the opportunity, he would go back. Especially with the pressure from his older sister.
I have expressed my concerns to my SI and I honestly think he loves me. But I cannot deal with constantly having a reminder of the girl they want more. He also refuses to say anything to his family when he knows I am hurt. Even though, if my mom or sister pulled crap like this, I would tell them off quick. We have moved out of town for college, but I have accepted an offer to attend another school closer to home, so we will be moving back. The ex is still very much present in his family’s life. She is always there to like pictures my future SIL puts of my fiancé and comment how sweet they are, how she loves them.. Honestly enough to gag me.
I know that people will read this a say that it’s stupid high school drama or whatever you want to call it.. And that’s how it started. But now it is affecting my relationship with the family that I want to be apart of because I love their son and brother so much. I would really like some words of encouragement or advice, anything you have to offer.