- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
Alright, I know this might get some bad feedback, but I’d really just appreciate straightforward, but polite, opinions.
Here’s the deal. I’m set to marry in a few months. The plans are cemented, the dress is purchased, the venue is set.
There’s only one catch.
I’m already legally married.
Let me begin with explaining that my husband is in the military. I recently, (well semi recently) moved up to where he is stationed to be with him. In the beginning, we were set on the idea of waiting to have our big huge beautiful wedding in our hometown.
And then the military moved in. We realized that being unmarried and living together was next to impossible! They threatened to force him to move back to the barracks if he was one minute late…ONCE. He was put on call for deployments, and with the schedule they have, that could mean moving at the drop of a dime.
So we decided on getting married here so that we could make it. And I know its wrong, but I didn’t tell my family.
Why? Because they are very sensitive people. I’ve seen them disown closer family members for less. They would literally hang up the phone and never, ever call back again. But there was NO way they would understand the difficulty that my then fiance and I faced with the ways of the military.
And I’m feeling horrible, really really horrible, about not telling them. They are so excited about this wedding, as am I, and I think telling them would be a catastrophy.
Does anyone have insight on this? Experiences similar? Anything!? I’ve spoken to a few other military spouses and they have similar experiences and have given me some great advice, but…I figured I’d try with the general public.
Anyhow, thanks for reading guys