(Closed) I really screwed up….

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
7291 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh that really stinks, making guests list is really hard and in a perfect world, we would love to have every freinds and acquaintance both current and of the past to come.

Hopefully she will understand!

Post # 4
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

oh that really does stink! but I do think that coming clean with a straight explanation and apology is the best way to handle it! After that, she can decide what to do with that information!

Good luck!

Post # 5
117 posts
Blushing bee

Oh man…this is exactly the type of thing I would get myself into!  I think an email will be nice, and if you play up the Big Greek Wedding part, it should make sense.  Do you live in the same area as D?  Maybe you could add in something about how you’d love to reconnect with her, and invite her to coffee or dinner or something?  That might help her feel like this is less of a “rejection.”

Post # 6
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Umm EMAIL? No, you speak to her as a person face to face or at least to hear your voice if you feel as badly as you claim. She deserves that much IMO.

Post # 9
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s not your fault, it was a mistake but you didn’t mean it. Good luck.

Post # 10
2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

In your friend’s posistion, I would likely have assumed I was invited as well, so an apology is a good idea.  But don’t invite her to the shower if she is not invited to the wedding.

Post # 11
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think any form of apology is a good idea at this point. I don’t believe you meant to hurt her feelings but with your history I can understand how she thought she would be invited.

And, to be honest, if you are inviting like 300ppl inviting one more wouldn’t be that big if a deal IMO but at this point I’m sure she would see it as a pity invite and no one wants those.


Post # 12
3142 posts
Sugar bee

@Miss Apricot:



Or you could just invite her.  She sounds as if she is really interested in your life and wedding plans.  What more could you ask of a friend.


Post # 14
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wouldnt she have to come to Greece just for the shower? It’s not very practical and I think I have read that anyone who is invited to the shower needs to be invited to the wedding.

Post # 16
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

As I am very chatty I could so see myself making the same mistake. I too would feel terrible. I am glad she was so understanding. I am praying I don’t make the same mistake. I very likely will!

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