Post # 1
I really want a bridal shower, but I’m not going to get one. I live in ON, my BM’s (and mother) live in AB and NL, my FMIL is in NS. The friends here who are invited to the wedding are from multiple groups and don’t know each other. So I know I won’t have a shower, and that’s okay, but it makes me sad. I love bridal showers. I’ve gone to them for so many of my friends and I feel like it’s part of being a bride. Having a fun party where people can tell stories about the bride, you play silly games and eat silly finger foods (i would love a tea party with finger sandwiches).
Just makes me sad. I know I’m a baby, and some people will probably call me entitled or bratty but I just wish I could have the party.
Post # 3
@MsGinkgo: I’m not having one either. I see it as a bonus because I won’t have to play any stupid games 😛
Post # 4
Why wouldnt you want a party? wanting a party doesnt make you bratty. I want one too 🙂
Post # 5
@MrsPanda99: but I love the stupid games 🙂
Post # 6
@MsGinkgo: For what it’s worth, I don’t think being sad about missing something that you enjoy doing makes you a brat or entitled. The fact that you didn’t even mention missing out on gifts is evidence enough. I’m sorry you don’t get to experience having your own shower!
Post # 7
I won’t have one either. I live in Texas, my family and two bridesmaids are in Ontario, one bridesmaid in BC, FI family in Minnesota… It would be fun but it’s not the end of the world.
Even without the geographical issues, I wouldn’t have a shower anyway. We are having a destination wedding and not registering because I don’t think it is a appropriate to ask guests to pay for flights and hotels and then be like “oh hey, here are the presents I would like you to buy us!”
Post # 8
@MsGinkgo: Maybe you can have one the day before the wedding?
I won’t have one and I don’t want one. But I saw some people doing that.
Post # 9
@MrsPanda99: Woah… neither of you are having showers? That makes me sad! I love you two and would totally throw you awesome showers if A) I knew you IRL B)we lived near each other and C) I wasn’t broke as hell. 😛
Post # 10
@MsGinkgo: Maybe you could ask your mom to put together a “bridal tea” for the ladies the day before the wedding when people will already be in town? Sometime before the rehearsal dinner maybe?
Post # 11
@MexiPino: awww, thank you. That’s very sweet of you 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA
hey, you can have mine!
while im grateful… i’ve already had one (thrown by my coworkers)
and now i’m having another (more family oriented)
I’m not good at all with attention, and it makes me all nervous! LOL
Post # 13
So sorry, OP!
Can you have a last-minute bridal shower? I know of some girls who have them the day before their wedding… that might be a possibility.
I wanted a backyard wedding. We’re not doing that, but I plan on exacting my revenge by having lots of fun backyard parties in the future! It helps me to feel better about something I’m still a little bummed over. 🙂
Post # 14
@MsGinkgo: Then play them with my sister. She would love to plan a shower 😛
@MexiPino: I’m not because we are having such a small wedding. My sister really wants to plan one for me but no one is invited to the wedding except my parents! We consider it a local elopement with my parents as witnesses. It seems rude to ask people to buy me gifts if they aren’t even invited. I would totally be a good sport and play the stupid games otherwise 😛
Post # 15
@MexiPino: oooh! I like that idea! A little tea party so the ladies can relax, get to know each other a little bit (and I can break out a different white dress…) there is a super cute tea shop not far from where I live & the hotel where everyone will be staying.
Post # 16
Most bride’s want the parties and things that come along with getting married. I’d feel sad too, maybe as PP’s said you can have something the day or night before the wedding? I just went to an out of state wedding and we arranged to do a Bridal Shower brunch the day of the rehearsal. It took some coordinating but, it all went really well, we wanted our friend to have a shower and bach as she deserved, despite everyone living in a different state!