Post # 16
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
rosegoldgirl: I agree, I’m super compassionate too (sometimes painfully so!) and i have a really hard time accepting that some peple just arent. I dont understand how people can be so cruel and not give a second thought to what it does to the other person. It’s people like you who help restore everyones faith in humanity 🙂
Post # 17
rosegoldgirl: You sound like a very nice person & your intentions are obviously good, so by all means approach her casually and offer a friendly compliment or- since it’s a fairly small town- simply ‘hi, I’m rosegoldgirl, I’ve seen you around but I don’t think we’ve actually met….’ But please don’t refer to her transitioning at all, as a few others have mentioned it could make her feel she doesn’t ‘pass’ or if she ‘passes’ quite well she may think you know because others are gossiping about her. Also, an unexpected reference to her transitioning by a stranger may be jarring to her or an invasion of her privacy, even if you mean to be supportive. Treat her as you would any other woman you’ve just met- start a conversation about light, neutral getting-to-know-you topics like the upcoming holidays, books or movies, a new restaurant etc, perhaps you have common interests and will end up becoming good friends 🙂 If this happens, let her make the decisions of how much and when/ if she chooses to open up to you about her transitioning.
Post # 18
rosegoldgirl: I agree with NavyBee. I think the best thing you can do is just be friendly and make nice small talk, just like you would trying to get to know anyone. I’m sure in a small not very open town she gets straight up aggressive stares or people being really cold. Just be warm and normal.
Post # 19
I know that this is an older thread. But I just wondered if you’ve seen her again and been able to talk to her yet? I hope she’s doing well.
Post # 20
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
RobbieAndJuliahaha: swonderful: thanks for the advice. If I can be brave enough to say something, I definitely plan on making small talk or complimenting her on something she is wearing. I think that would go over a lot better than my original idea.
Everdeen: no, I have not seen her since I made this thread. I too hope she is ok and doing well.
Post # 21
Dont bring up transitioning unless she wants to it ccan be dangerous I know im trans