I regret acting a fool after being dumped?

posted 7 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

overthemoon2018 :  I’ve reacted to situations in ways that embarassed me after the fact, even years later if for whatever reason I think of whatever scenario, I cringe.

I think we all have those regretful moments, but what can you do? Use it as a learning experience, or just try and forget about it. No use in dwelling on it now.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

I feel like a lot of us have a cringey memory from how they behaved during a breakup. I know I do!

I dated a guy in college – foreign exchange student, not really all that nice, sexist, just generally not that much of a catch at all. Like at all. It was a mediocre relationship, but I lost my virginity to him (also he was very sub par in that department). So I was smitten, oh boy was I smitten. 

At the end of the day he was just using me. Broke up with me by saying I really “wasn’t worth the effort of a relationship.” I did not take that well. I tried pleading with him, bargaining with him, it was not a good look. I ended up sending him a scathing and desperate facebook message one night after he had left. I still cringe thinking about it. I was a pathetic hot mess. But live and learn.

I’ll never see him again, who cares if he tells his friends tell stories about “that crazy chick he dated in America?” I was a little crazy, and I’m significantly less so now. I’m happy, I’m in a great relationship, life is good! We all do embarassing things. You can’t torture yourself about dumb choices you made that at the end of the day no longer matter.

Post # 4
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Honey bee

I regret getting engaged the first time. I let my boyfriend talk me into it but I was never fully on board and wouldn’t set a wedding date. We argued too much and once he got mad and picked up the rocking chair I was sitting in and started shaking it. I had a moment of clarity when a voice in my head said, “Sunburn, in 10 years he’ll be punching you in the face”.  I broke up with him after that.  He contacted me recently via Facebook and asked why we never got married. Hmm….perhaps because I finally got smart?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

overthemoon2018 :  Urgh mate this brings me back to my own cringiness with breakups. I was casually seeing this guy and got way too invested (he never wanted anything from me). Cue the annoying texts, phonecalls, showing up at his place at 1am after a night of drinking, frantically knocking on the door to no . No answer. Expensive cab ride to get there and back, as he was in a different city. Not even a breakup, as we weren’t really together. So vague.

I chalk it up to being in my early 20’s and a complete dipshit.

We’ve all been there. Most of these stories start with “Back when I was an idiot 22 year old”….

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Yep totally did this and felt like shit for a while after, all I can say is the feeling goes away with time. 

Hopefully there is nowhere for you to run into your ex because that’s the only way this can get worse!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

overthemoon2018 :  haha ah yes definitely don’t want to be the crazy chick!

Chalk it up to life experience. Try not to dwell on it – I can guarantee he isn’t

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

OOF I feel ya. There are 2 instances that stick out to me. One when I was 17, my sister still likes digging that one up 13 years later to tease me about. The other was a rebound who cheated on me anyway. I look back and I’m like WHHHAAaaaAATTT was wrong with me?!? 

Emotions get high and we do dumb things, it happensyell

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

chelbell23 :  “I was a little crazy, and I’m significantly less so now.” — omg, I love this! You should put it on t-shirts and coffee mugs. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

overthemoon2018 :  I had a long distance relationship break up, and it’s crazy how helplessly sad you feel when they’re so far away. It hurts worse, somehow. And yes, I look back and wonder, “What was I thinking?!” But if the guy possibility abused my cat, I would have dumped his ass that day. Give kitty a big hug, and let kitty know mommy will chose better next time. 

Post # 14
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577 posts
Busy bee

Your not alone Bee. Ex-Stage 2 clinger here! 🤣😩

Post # 15
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Busy bee

overthemoon2018 :  Thank gooness you eacaped such an awful person, Bee. Your dad is a good judge of character, and I’m sure is relieved you didn’t end up with him.

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