(Closed) I returned my engagement ring. A story for those who don't love their rings

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

winnie1018:  Well said!! I’m sure that your then fiance appreciated your honesty. You definitely want to love the ring you will be wearing for the rest of your lives together. Thank you for sharing your story! Beautiful rings!! 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - backyard wedding!!

beautiful rings!!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Beautiful,  love all the rings

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I can TOTALLY relate to the guilt. Oh, the guilt. I felt so terrible for wanting to exchange my e-ring setting it took me so long to convince myself to just mention it to my Fiance. In the end, we got the setting changed for something that was more suitable to be worn with a wedding band and added more bling along the way. He was totally fine with it and just wanted me to be happy with what I have to wear forever. It’s been a few weeks and I sometimes still wish I hadn’t done it and still feel guilty…but in the end I know it was a hard decision to make and I made it for a reason. It’s not that I didn’t like the ring he had gotten me – it was actually quite a lovely ring – it’s just that I wasn’t able to pair it with a wedding band and it wasn’t really my style. We have different taste in jewelry. I have to admit that I sometimes do miss my original e-ring though, but what’s done is done and hopefully the feeling of guilt will go away with time, especially after our wedding I hope. 

Your rings are ALL gorgeous! Good for you for speaking up and for your Fiance for being so understanding. Did you have any regrets right after exchanging your ring initially? I actually left the store with tears in my eyes and felt so terrible. Somehow it’s ingrained in my mind that I’m a horrible person for not liking exactly what my Fiance picked for me. Although I know logically it’s pretty normal!  

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Beautiful rings, and I agree with speaking up! My Darling Husband has been a trooper through my indecisiveness with rings.  I think part of his flexibility is due to the fact that he didn’t select my jewelry, I did. I just returned my second set so that the money could be applied to a set I found that I liked better, which he purchased for me lol! 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

winnie1018:  Love all three rings! Thanks for sharing them and your story!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Modern, Classic, Fun

winnie1018:  so happy you got your dream ring!! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 9
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Busy bee

winnie1018:  Glad you had such an understanding fiance! You are right, it seemed like a conversation you needed to have…but it definitely could have had a very different outcome. Happy to know you are with a reasonable and supportive man ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

winnie1018:  beautiful rings! Which tiffany band is that? 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

winnie1018:  Eloquent story!  I think it is wonderful that your husband understood you and your feelings.  I’m sure it was difficult to put his own ego aside for that one, and it’s a great sign of your communication and love.  All three are beautiful!  Thank you for sharing your bling and story.  

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m glad it worked out for you! That heirloom ring is gorgeous!

Post # 13
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Helper bee

winnie1018:  I think that’s awesome and I totally agree with you that you should definitely be honest about things like this. That heirloom ring is to DIE FOR and so is your gorgeous wedding band!! I totally see why you wanted the heirloom ring as your e-ring! With that beauty as an option, I wouldn’t want anything else either. Congrats!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I agree that honesty is the best policy. My SO knows exactly what I want (I gave him a list of specs LOL), if he bought me something different I would definitely speak up.

Your heirloom ring is absolutely gorgeous! I would be so proud to wear that too ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Omg I love your wedding band! Is it the Tiffany Etoile narrow pave band? I’m obsessed with that style, so sparkley!

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