Post # 1
So my divorce was finalized in November, and I’ve been happily dating a wonderful man for the past three months. He is the absolute opposite of my ex. Physically active, motivated, successful, has two beautiful children who I love spending time with, and he absolutely adores me. For Christmas, he asked me if I wanted to pick out an antique jewelry piece as I didn’t have any requests and he knows my love for all antiques.
I made a wish list on Ruby Lane set at a $200 max we agreed on for each other. I showed him the list, sent it to his e-mail, and was happy he was going to choose from 13 items. Unfortunately, I went to alter my list today and saw one piece was sale pending. This specific ring was a favorite of his, and was exactly my size.
Now I’m sad. I really wanted it to be a surprise. There is still a possibility he was not the purchaser though.
How do I feign excitement if this is the ring, or how do I stop myself from building up false hope and then being disappointed if it isn’t the ring? Ugh.
Post # 2
Sorry, this is all on you. If you wanted it to be a surprise, you needed to stay away from your wish list until after Christmas.
Be happy for the gift, if not the surprise.
Post # 3
Whatever happens you’re a lucky woman. You don’t need to feign happiness for that!
Post # 4
you went to alter your list AFTER you had already sent it to him?
Post # 5
Its very possible it may not be the one! I personally would stay away from the site, although I personally would struggle from doing so! Hopefully if you get any more comments they more supportive!
Post # 6
When you make a wish list, that kind of ruins the element of surprise to begin with.
if you let this “ruin” your Christmas gift, you’re being silly. The ring is a lovely gift whether or not it is a complete surprise (Which it can’t be since you told him what to buy in the first place).
Post # 7
Well, like you said you really don’t know if he was the one who bought it….so…it will still be a surprise. ..kinda, right? I ruin my surprise every year by picking out my gift. ..lol
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
I wouldn’t say christmas is ruined. i think it’s all in your perspective. I would look at it like, you might be getting exactly what you want.
There are plenty of ‘surprises’ in life, not all of them good.
Post # 9
If you sent him a list of items then it wasn’t much of a surprise anyway. Be grateful you’ve got a beautiful ring.
Post # 10
Like you and others have said, you don’t know whether he has bought it or not. And also keep in mind that you have not seen the piece in person so… The excitement can still be there. Seeing it in photos and in real life are two different things.