(Closed) I ruined my own wedding photos by posing wrong- still cant let it go…

posted 6 months ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 5
468 posts
Helper bee

You look lovely! My photos all suck because I am either trying not to cry and therefore look weirdly miserable, or I’m trying to make sure I don’t blink and therefore have what my husband lovingly calls “crazy eyes”. I beat myself up about not having good photos but at the end of the day, who cares? I married my best friend and we now have 3 beautiful children. Our marriage is so much more beautiful than our photos are, as it should be. 

Post # 7
8191 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It seems like you literally post every year about hating your pictures or resenting someone about something wedding related. It’s been 4 years! Who cares what your chin looked like 4 years ago???? Obsessing this much is really unhealthy.

Post # 8
1262 posts
Bumble bee

I’m not lying or just trying to make you feel better. But I don’t see anything wrong with your wedding photos! You look STUNNING! Trust me, I am a very nit picky person and can pin point subtle “flaws” or differences so to speak pretty easily normally. But I genuinely think your wedding pics are great and the double chin is literally BARELY there and totally not noticeable. I honestly had to zoom to see what you’re talking about and let’s be honest, who is gonna zoom in? 

I also don’t see how else you could’ve posed? Seems like you’re posing pretty normally… Angling your chin too up or too down would look weird. 

ETA- looking at your old threads, you seem to have regretted every aspect of your wedding… this isn’t healthy, please seek out some help! I don’t say this to be mean, but for your betterment! 

Post # 9
3019 posts
Sugar bee

You BARELY have a double chin, if you can even call it that!!! I had to majorly zoom in just to see it.

Four years is a long time to be ruminating about it. Maybe you should see a therapist?

Post # 10
1209 posts
Bumble bee

I must be blind because I don’t see a double chin at all. I see a gorgeous bride. I used to pick my photos apart when I was in my 20s. Now, 20 years later, I look back at those same photos and wonder why in the world I was so hard on myself. I look at your photos and I’m wondering why you’re being so hard on you, too. You’re beautiful! 

That’s not a double chin, by the way. That’s a youthful, young neck and chin that disappears with age. I wish I still had my “double chin” too! 

Post # 11
1165 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

A lot of people have various things they’d do differently about their wedding (including myself). I wish I had spent more money on a photographer because my photos were subpar.

However, it’s been over 2 years and I don’t have any regrets because it was the happiest day of my life (that won’t be trumped until my son is born in a few months) and the day that I made a lifetime commitment to the love of my life. That day will always be that amazing even if my photos don’t match the amazingness that it was. 

It seems really unhealthy to focus on such minutiae about such a big day four years later and makes me wonder why is the wedding still so forefront in your mind and if the marriage is going well. Because that’s infinitely more important than the wedding.

I have always wondered why we put so much financial and social pressure on ourselves over one day when it’s the marriage that holds the value. I know that down the road I could easily renew my vows or have an anniversary celebration after we’ve been tried and tested and get everything I couldn’t afford/ didn’t know I wanted for the wedding. 

Also, I really like your photos. You had a better photog than me for sure! 

Post # 12
2283 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

I think you look stunning in the photos! Don’t see the second chin. And it doesn’t matter if it was four years ago, there’s nothing wrong with your post. I’ve seen dumber stuff posted on the Bee.

Post # 13
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club

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planningwife311 :  i think we notice more. I did the same but then i noticed that i was all very happy and joyful.


you look beautiful and so happy!!

Post # 14
2052 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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bearinabeecostume :  I just wanted to let you know that I appreciated your thoughtful comment! I have been a bit nit picky about my own wedding photos and it’s always nice to be reminded that time changes perspectives ❤️

Post # 15
10541 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

These pictures are gorgeous and you look absolutely stunning. If you seriously can’t see that and are still upset 4 years later I would seriously consider therapy.

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