(Closed) I ruined my proposal

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
101 posts
Blushing bee


pinkpolish:  Lol I could totally see myself ruining a proposal because of crankiness! Here’s hoping you don’t have to wait too much longer and you’re wearing appropriate footwear this time!

Post # 3
5958 posts
Bee Keeper

pinkpolish:  Aww 🙁  I kind of ruined mine as well.  But who cares about the place though?  To me, it’s the thought and the words he says when he proposes.  My husband proposed to me when we were in our room it was 4:30 in the morning, and we were both exhausted, but he wanted to propose on easter (later in the day) but I was so worried he wasn’t, he proposed sooner rather than later.  But what he said is what stays with me today, not where it was.

Post # 4
592 posts
Busy bee

Not just your fault: he should have reminded you to pack appropriate shoes.

Post # 5
356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Gah! Doesn’t this make you want to have everything you could possibly need for any situation packed into a bag at all times?!? I can absolutely see this happening to me…

Don’t fret, it’s right around the corner! Keeping my fingers crossed that it’s super soon for you!

Post # 6
1191 posts
Bumble bee

Awww. I’m waiting right now too and I know how hard all of this is!! The important thing, though, is to remember that it’s happening soon and that he loves you. I try to remind myself of this and keep calm but it’s so dang hard.

Post # 7
8465 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle

Ugh, why did he have to tell you that!? I think he ruined the proposal.

Post # 8
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ha!  You are not alone.  I didn’t know my now husband was going to propose and was giving him a hard time during our hike.  “When are you going to propose already.  Let’s just get married…”  Jokingly giving him a hard time but meaning every single word of it.  LOL  When he pulled out the ring I was so impressed I said how big is it?  (It looked big!)  Of course, the joke is that I wouldn’t say yes until I knew it was big enough.  LOL

Post # 9
9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Aw! Don’t worry about it! My husband was going to propose at a local park by my favorite fountain, but it was cold and rainy that night and I told him there was no way I was going to the park in the rain. So we got enaged at the restaurant where we had dinner. Not as personal, but oh well! 

Post # 10
2698 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

FutureDrAtkins:  +1 lol. That would drive my bonkers if he told me afterwards.

pinkpolish:  At least you won’t be cranky when it does happen! I love going for walks and hikes, but I KNOW if I didn’t have boots I would be a bear about it haha.

Post # 11
31 posts

Bummer! He is right about the cranky part, I could see that happening with us.

My spouse has started to propose twice. But somehow I can sense it, so I stop him. I don’t want to know and feel its coming any more than I already do. I want a surprise. It drives him crazy that I just know it is coming, so now when people ask if we are engaged yet he tells people no and its my fault because I said no before he even got to ask.

He has now threatened to jump out from behind the door and just scare me then propose since that is the only way he could do it without me somehow sensing it.

I have created even more waiting for myself…..

Post # 13
72 posts
Worker bee

I can see me doing the same thing. And then hating myself afterwards.

SO and I are each single parents to daughters and in the 16 months we have been together we have only gone away for the weekend just the two of us once. We went on a short road trip and stayed in an amazing cabin in the middle of nowhere with a hot tub and got to spend glorious alone time that is so very hard to come by. 

Sadly less than 36 hours before we were scheduled to leave a good friend of his (who had come to be close friend of mine) passed away after a lengthy battle with cancer. We almost canceled our trip as SO was to be a pallbearer at the funeral but we decided to go ahead with our plans as at that point we couldn’t get a refund and the services for our friend were to be held the day after we returned. 

A week or so after the funeral SO and I were having an argument and he blurted out that he was planning to propose while we were at the cabin but didn’t because we were mourning our friend and he didn’t think the timing was right. 

I didn’t play a hand in the proposal not happening but I sure felt bad that the argument made him admit that. That was two months ago and he has not proposed. 

Post # 14
577 posts
Busy bee

Haha. I’ve seen similar threads a lot, as well as some of the blogger bees post about how a bad day, disgruntled attitude or unforeseen weather corrupted the original plans. 

Glad your so patient with him! I’d be so annoyed of my SO told he he meant to propose but didn’t lol. 

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