I ruined my whole proposal plan!!!

posted 5 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Wait, your boyfriend is telling you YOU ruined it, he’s no longer asking on the trip, and told you everything you would have gotten if you hadn’t been such a good detective?  Mine would have laughed, said he knew I was too smart to surprise, and gone ahead and asked me right there.  What kind of man are you trying to marry here?

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Your Fiance sounds like a myriad of not so nice words (your friend too). HE ruined the proposal, not you. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

I would be extremely mad if my Fiance had done this to me. He then told you everything he was going to do? It’s like he is rubbing it in your face to make you feel bad. Did you tell him he hurt your feelings? 

Post # 5
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Worker bee

Wow. You didn’t ruin anything. IMO, your friend and your bf did. Your friend shouldn’t have said anything to your bf since you were only speculating at that time, and your bf should’ve just laughed it off OR propose right then and there since he felt that you figured out his plan. I’m sorry about this upsetting situation you’re in, but you did not do anything wrong. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

sounds like he has zero sense of humor = 🚩🚩🚩

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Both your friend and your boyfriend have behaved terribly and I’d be wondering if I wanted to continue either of these relationships 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

Ridiculous. Dump the friend and tell your boyfriend he’s about to ruin his whole relationship by saying things like that. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Why waste your time being crushed when it could be better spent eviscerating that jackass you’re dating? 

Your SOs response to this matter is seriously questionable. You should not have to squelch your excitement about this and fuck him for making you think that.

And who is this asshole you were talking to that went running back to him? Fuck them too.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way but you’ve done nothing wrong.  I think the proposal is very important to some men.  I know my husband was like this…he very much wanted to “surprise” me and plan something special.  I don’t think he would have acted childish if I had figured it out though.  I think your boyfriend needs to learn that going through with the plan wouldn’t make it any less special.  Also, sometimes the most heartfelt moments are the least orchestrated.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

Your bf sounds seriously petty and sadistic. Be glad be is showing these red flags now. I would SERIOUSLY reconsider the relationship

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I mean maybe I’m just petty put is there anyone else you can take on the cruise? If he’s saying you ruined something you’re paying for he can f off in my book.

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